Friday, November 22, 2019

My Sweetest Friend


I heard the song "Come to Me" again yesterday.  I don't know if it was just an accident or if I was meant to hear it.  It will always remind me of James, always.  Every part of that song speaks to me.  But I think the part that gets me most is:

Come to me my sweetest friend.  Can you feel my heart again?

"My sweetest friend."  I don't think I am eloquent enough to explain how those words make me feel.  James was my friend.  Yes he was my boyfriend for a short time, and my lover for an even shorter time but he was my FRIEND.  I MISS my friend!  I miss my friend so much!  So when I hear that song, those words, it makes my heart melt.

My sweetest friend.  I miss my sweetest friend.  Yes it's been a while.  I know that.  But when you love someone I guess that love lasts forever.  I love hard.  Always have.  And apparently my heart has the capacity to love more than one person at a time.  Because I will always love James, no matter what.

Yeah I know this blog must sound like the ramblings of a really weird woman.  I get it.  I have a boyfriend but MAN at least when I go to sleep at night I know I've been honest and true to my heart.  I was able to express my love for James this whole time, and maybe that might not seem like a lot to anyone else but it is huge for me, to be able to be honest about my love.  I still love him.  And I will always wish that I could see him, talk with him and know him again.

I wish I could hug James again.

Maybe it is the holidays.  I don't know.  I just miss him.  I wish I could see his face.  His beautiful face and gorgeous blue eyes and sweet smile.  I remember his touch.  How when he would lean into kiss me he would place his hand on the side of my face and lean my face into his kiss with a smile.  I can't help it.  I remember, and I miss him.

I've never enjoyed kissing anyone like I enjoyed kissing him.  I have learned that I can love again but my heart will never love like I loved James. 

Twin Soul?  I don't know.  I can't label it.  All I know is no one else has been my full mirror like James, and yeah he showed me a lot of myself that I didn't want to see but I needed to and I do my best to shift around.  But you know what aches?  On a purely human level?  When we met we had both been with people who were not our perfect match.  He'd been hurt a bit too.  And he told me when he met me he'd finally found the woman he had been hoping and wishing for.  We were a perfect fit.  We talked for hours.  We could sit in a room talking, hugging, kissing for hours needing nothing but each other.  No TV.  No cell phones.  Nothing but each other.  We text, called and emailed all the time and never got tired of hearing from each other.  I KNOW that man loved hearing for me.  That is what makes it, to this day, unbelievable.  I KNOW James enjoyed talking with me and knowing me.  I KNOW he loved me.  I know it.  Maybe I had a hard time believing it back then but looking back, I know he loved me dearly.  He thought I was wonderful.  He just really really loved me.  I know that.  Time has passed but I feel like... he must think of me.  Because what we shared was perfection and it never really ended.

I must be fucking stubborn to a fault.  Believe me many days I consider... maybe it's time.  But I just can't.  I can't "let go."  I NEED truth.  I need to speak with James again.  I will finally feel settled when I speak with him and he sounds like the sweet kind thoughtful caring gentle loving peaceful friendly funny generous considerate respectful dear dear man I met, knew and fell in love with.  I swear if I could hear from him, speak with him, and experience that man again- I might be okay.  I need to have that reflection.

If he was my reflection then, then when I had so much shit inside of me that needed to be cleared, why can't he be my reflection now?  I don't want someone else to be my reflection NOW.   James was the one to show me all of THAT, and I have worked so fucking hard to clear myself of the muck and the mud and the darkness and the anger.  I have tried to be SO conscious.  I do my very best to ignore anything negative or low and focus only on the positive, on my blessings, on being loving and kind.  I wish James could pop back into my life and be a reflection of who I am now.

I believe my current boyfriend is my reflection.  That is why he thinks I am so sweet.  But I want James to come back to me and be able to show me that too.  He was my mirror then and I want him to do the same now, now when I am more clear and happy and sound and peaceful and grateful. 

I want my friend back.  Dear God please I want my friend back in my life.  My loving endearing kind gentle wonderful adorable friend.

Come to my my sweetest friend.  I think of you all the time.  I hope you are well and I miss you.

Jennifer

Tuesday, November 19, 2019

I Should Have Hugged You


Man I still think about James.  Not as often, and it doesn't really hurt like it used to.  Some of that is because my life is super happy right now.  I am fulfilled.  I have a great family, wonderful friends, my son is such a darling, my career is amazing, I'm sewing and drawing and making wonderful stuff and I have a very sweet loving kind boyfriend in my life.  So my life is full, and my mind is full.  I don't think about James as much as I used to.

Then sometimes I hear a song or see something like this and my heart melts. I think back to the last time I saw him when he came to see me.  And it was SO weird, so unreal, so shocking and all of that- I was taken off guard.  I wish I could go back and do it over again.  There are things I would change.  I would have just let him embrace me and not said a word.  Kissed him and owned it.  Kissed him and told God inside that see I knew he's loved me all along and couldn't wait to kiss me again.  I could FEEL his longing for me.  It was there.  And it wasn't a sexual longing but instead a longing to be near me, to hold me again.

If I could do it over I would just sit there and kiss him and hug him, no worries, no doubts, no fears.

And before he left that night I wish I would have hugged him tighter and harder.  I had no idea it was going to be the last time I would see his face in... three years now?  I miss his face.  No matter how good life is, how much love I have in my life, I still miss James' beautiful face. 

I remember he sent me a message once, after being gone for a long time, and he told me he wished he could come back and be "intimate" with me again.  I love that choice of word, intimate.  It's so special, soft and caring.  A cuddle is intimate.  I soft gentle late-night conversation is intimate.  Kissing is intimate.  Foreheads together smiling at each other is intimate. 

Intimate.

Hugging is intimate.

I wish I would have hugged you longer the last time I saw you.

I wish I could hug you again.

I miss your sweet kind smile.

Jen

Friday, October 18, 2019

Memories


I heard this song not long ago and it really made me think.  The words explain my heart.  He sings that we can cheer for those who are with us right now and still think of those who are not with us now.  But one part where he sings that he can't pick up the phone and call right now but will one day, man, that hit me hard.

I wish I was in contact with James.  I will always wish that.  I miss my friend.  I miss talking with him, laughing with him, sharing with him and seeing his smile.  I heard another song today, one that really reminds me, and I have not heard it in a long time so it grabbed my attention.  And I cried which I rarely do over this situation any longer.

My life is super happy, as I've said.  I honestly try to live my best life.  I've learned to always lean towards being loving, kind, grateful and positive as often as possible, if not always.  Life flows a lot smoother that way.  We leave for Disney World Sunday morning.  I am SO blessed, and I realize this and I am thankful for it, truly.

The other night my boyfriend Dave and I were together when my friend Lori text me.  Lori is my "twin soul" friend who I've known for about 5 years now.  We've walked this path together, thank God.  She is like me, super independent, strong, happy, loving, has a great life.  But she still gets signs of her twin soul.  And she still loves him.  So sometimes we reach out to each other when the signs are strong, or we have a dream, or just those times when our hearts might ache a little more than others.

Dave asked me, "Is everything okay?" and I told him yes, that it was Lori texting me.  And we began talking about James.  I told Dave I know I have not said anything about James in a long time, and that's because Dave is SO good to me so I feel like I should just keep it to myself, but that it's still there.  Dave is such an amazing man.  He again told me if someday I were to see James again he understands all of it, and he agreed from the beginning to understand and respect my heart and feelings.

So I tell myself to live each day like this song- to love, embrace, accept, enjoy and be grateful for all the love I have in my life right now.  But at the same time allow myself the dream of seeing James again.  I still think about him every day.  I get frustrated because I know what was true for us: he loved me greatly, and that love never ended.  I know it might seem crazy but I remember after allllll the time that passed, all the weirdness that happened, months in almost years of quiet and STILL he reached out to me and told me that I was right, he loved me and always had.  I knew that, and I still believe it now.;

My prayer is one day one of those "miracles" happen where somehow my heart, my thoughts, my intentions, my energy are clear and aligned to a point where James can reach out to me.  I kinda gave up trying to reach out "in real life."  I know that doesn't work unless things are aligned, and I guess I just... I dunno.  I have more faith that he'll reach out on his own when/if that times comes.  I have hope that one day it will happen.

This song "Memories" though, wow.  It is exactly how I feel.  I can't help but miss him.  I still do. 

Jen

Wednesday, October 2, 2019

What I'm Doing Now



This is my art.  For years I've always loved colorful fun paintings of women's faces.  I would try to draw and UGH it looked horrid.  I chalked it up to not having much skill in drawing.  But then one day I saw a book at the art store called "Drawing Beautiful Faces" so I bought it and started practicing and found that I love drawing ladies' faces but in a very whimsical fantastical way.  The book and also a Youtube video taught me how to chart where the features should be placed on the face.  That helped a lot!

I don't like drawing bodies or clothes so I avoid that, just faces is what appeals to me.  And some little fun animals.  I have more art supplies that JoAnn's and Michael's combined so there is no lack of stuff in my house to keep me busy.  I'm also making art journals and I hope by this time next year to do selling my stuff in art shows. 


It helps keep me busy and my mind in the right place.


I love Halloween and have decided to sell my art under the name "One Salty Witch."


Although this one is sassy as well as salty.


Yes I still think about James.  I've written on and off about him here, and I still have one really good female "twin soul friend" I met about 5 years ago; she and I still believe in our journey and we still chat about the signs we get and the hope that one day we will be able to know these two sweet men again.  It is still very difficult for me to come to terms with because I've never lost anyone close to me before.  I may not have known James for very long but I did get extremely close to him.  When you read about how a twin flame gets very VERY close to you and then is suddenly gone, well that is what happened to me.  It is six years later.  I've had a variety of men I've loved in my life and STILL James made the largest impact on me.  I fell entirely in love with him, and that love has never left me.  I've never gotten over the fact that one day he was in my life, hardcore, and the next *poof* disappeared.  Yes, I still... ache over that loss.  I grieve, in my own private way.

I still miss James a lot.  My heart aches for him.  I think the *only* thing that could ever change that is if he was in my life again, if I knew him again like I did when we met.  THEN my heart would feel better.  Until that day I will have this yearning.  I've never ever believed that if it "hurts" then it is a bad thing.  I don't feel that we can help how our hearts feel, our emotions, especially when coming from the place of deeply loving someone who is no longer in your life, are not really controllable.

I do spend time here and there reminding myself of our good times.  I DEFINITELY enjoy the life I am living right now.  I make sure to enjoy every day and love dearly those people who are in my life.  I don't take that for granted while longing for something I don't have.  I love, respect and enjoy what I do have but at the same time I also still wish to know James again.  I want to talk to him, like sit down and just have a normal real honest conversation with him.  It's always felt so abnormal when that stopped happening.  It always will feel "wrong" to me, abnormal, "not of this world."  I hope one day that changes and I hear from him and we can meet and hug and talk like two people who care about each other.  I still hope and pray for that miracle to happen.

I'll always believe James is a special soul connection to me, definitely the strongest soul connection I've had.  Whether I label it a twin soul or twin flame or whatever- doesn't really matter.  It is more the connection I know we had where I would think something and he would know it, and all the rest of the magic we shared.  Like... how can someone I was that close with physically, emotionally and even energetically be just gone?  I really hope one day to get the affirmation I long for, to have him back in my life, to know he's that special connection, the one that never breaks, the one that can always somehow someway come back. 

Reunion.  I want that.  Re-union.  We had union and I want it back.  

I still love him and miss him dearly. I think that's why my ladies have a wistful look.  At the same time I really do stay full of positive loving energy, as much as I can!  I do love my life a lot.  I just wish James could be part of it.

xxoo

Jen






Wednesday, August 21, 2019

Happy Birthday!

Today is James' birthday.   I wish him a very happy, joyous, peaceful birthday spent with those he loves. It has been a while since we met and I realize how weird it seems that I'm here after all these years but no one has had more impact on me than him so here I am.

Happy birthday. Thank you for being my twin soul. No matter where you are right now I will love you forever for all you've done for me. I hope you have a wonderful birthday 

Xoxo

Jennifer 

Tuesday, August 6, 2019

Find Me



This song.

"It's taken losing you to know."

I've learned so much since losing you.  I never imagined I would love a man like I love you, although I was shown.  I had the song in my head before I met you.  The one that showed me I was going to meet a love that I could not get over, one I could not let go of.  I was shown, and while at that time I didn't understand it soon became clear. 

I've come to love again.  Because my heart is large and open.  But you are not replaceable.  No matter how sweet this new love is, what a blessing it is, it does not replace how I feel for you.

You are irreplaceable to me.

I didn't know how magical it would be.  I was shown, yes, but I didn't understand and oh how I wish I had understood!  I wish!

The day I met you in person my fortune cookie told me I was lucky enough to ask and blessed enough to receive.  It also told me my energy is magnetic but to be careful because I could also repel.  And then you came to me, my gift.

I miss you.

I will love you forever.

You told me it was not goodbye but until next time.  I still wish hope and pray to see you and talk with you again.  I an only continue to hope that one day my wishes come true.

I am an admitted endlessly hopeful bright shining love.  A stubborn love.  And I will always love you. 

xxoo honey


Thursday, June 13, 2019

Twin Soul Stuff



This is a great song.  There are a lot of songs that remind me of James or my "twin soul" experience with him.  I see that people find my blog.  I don't want anyone to be disheartned when they learn I am not "with my twin soul."  I do have a good life but I remember four years ago thinking if I could not be with James then I would not be happy and that's not the case.  I AM very happy.  I am happy and sometimes sad at the very same time.  Sad meaning a heartache.  I carry both emotions inside me at the same time.

I'd like to leave a few reminders here for anyone who might find my blog when searching about twin souls.  Maybe they will help you.

  1. Don't let anyone tell you this connection is not about love.  It is ALL about love.  No, it might not be about human relationship but it is about LOVE.  You are free to wish and desire for a love relationship with your twin.  You don't have to feel badly because you can't overcome wanting to be with your twin in a loving romantic relationship.  When we love someone as deeply as we do these soul connections there is no overcoming that longing, that ache, that desire.  You might not have what you want but that doesn't mean you shouldn't want it.
  2. Please understand if you are the twin who is on the receiving end of silence, non-response, being blocked on social media or text or IM or FB or whatever it is- this is due to energy and soul, NOT because your twin is rejecting or ignoring you.  
  3. Please be darn sure this person is an actual "twin soul" or "twin flame" connection, and only you can know.  How will you know?  Well some big signs are:
  4. The other person can read your mind, answers what you are thinking about, knows when you've spoken about him to a friend, is eerily, uncannily and magically psychic with you (even if they don't realize it.)  This is because that person is your 100% mirror, more than anyone else in the world.
  5. You experienced the most BEAUTIFUL human connection with this person.  Sometimes like me, very loving and romantic.  You spoke of the future together.  They were so kind, loving, gentle, perfect in every way, loved talking to you to the point where you just wanted to climb inside each other and stay there- and then suddenly one day that person kinda disappears.  Either blocks you, moves away, stops responding, etc.
  6. If this happens and you start thinking bad things about them then this person's behavior will start changing toward you when you do hear from them, almost like they become opposite of who they were.  And it's so obvious, so weird, so unreal that it's very hard to believe, accept or swallow.  It doesn't feel like reality.
  7. Strong signs.  Songs, seeing their name everywhere, just random signs of every kind.  I've never received more signs than I do about James.  
  8. Deep intense personal emotional pain that you can't really express.  Dear Lord.  The pain I felt.  I had to go on a leave from work.  I could barely live.  And I am a strong woman who had suffered some heartbreak before I met him but THIS pain was earth-shattering to me.  Laying on the floor in a ball, keening.  My heart hurt so bad being away from him.  I missed him so very much.  And there was fear there too, scared he just left me, scared my worst fears of being so easily "left behind" had happened with him.  Fear and love mixed together and it all just HURT.  
  9. After separation you can think of this person, or speak of them to someone, or blog about them, or whatever- and not long later you will hear from this person and they will almost "act out" or behave like you said or wrote about or thought hard about.  Does this make sense?  Like they can "hear" you and are showing you your own thought/feelings about them.  THIS is mirroring.  Twins are our biggest strongest most inescapable mirrors.  They will show you all of the energies inside of us that need to be overcome.  Some people call these energies our "shadow" or "shadow side" or our "demons."  Strong fears like the fear of not being loveable enough, not being worthy enough, personal doubts about self-worth, etc.  Anger/rage is another.  Doubts in general.  If you doubt that your twin loves you, and if you think your twin is an egotistical mean person for going silent then your twin will reach out to you and "act" like he does not love you, and he won't be very nice about it- because whatever you think about your twin is how he is going to act towards you.
  10. In my experience, and from the experiences of others, it seems the feminine energy (which can be housed in a male human) is typically on the receiving end of the silence.  The male energy (again, sometimes housed in a female human) is usually the one who becomes the mirror.  I've never EVER experienced it being a two-way street.  I never experiences us "mirroring each other."  Unless me telling James that I know he is a wonderful person, a good man, a dear human being was my way of truly mirroring his truth.  He was my mirror to show me all of the shit I needed to force myself away from, what I had to overcome.  He showed me my anger until I had to overcome being angry inside.  He showed me my doubts until I had to overcome those doubts.  I had to overcome them to where I NEVER ever spoke of anything doubtful concerning him.  If I ever spoke to anyone about anything doubtful then I'd have that mirrored back to me, and it hurt.  It all originated with ME.  I was the cause and he was stuck being the effect.
  11. This experience is guided by higher self.  Always.  And until your energy is right you WILL NOT get what you want.  No matter how you email, text, FB, stalk, beg, plead, etc.  No "human workings" will get a twin flame to do what you want.  They can't even do what THEY want once this all happens.  I truly believe James listened to his soul once separation happened, and he was stuck being my mirror.  I believe he honestly loved me and would have loved being with me, sharing a life with me, and it hurt him and he missed me a lot.  He showed me this when he could.  And looking back at that now, with clear eyes, ached deeply.  I wanted him to be my husband.  I really did.  He would make the best husband, and I loved him so much.  So much.  He was literally my "dream come true" and what I ASKED for, wished for, dreamed for came to me in him.  When you fuck up your own dream come true- it hurts forever.
  12. This is important.  IF you are in the middle of this there are ways to make it easier, and I honestly feel there is opportunity for many to reunite with their twin soul IF they can overcome their fears and be so emotionally and spiritually strong in healing their fears and holding onto, affirming, love for their twins.  I do NOT believe that twins "never get together" or don't reunite.  I still feel hopeful that one day my energy will be clear enough, aligned, that I will see James again and experience that truth (love) with him again.  
  13. Please love your twin soul.  He/she is going through a lot along with you even if you (and he) don't know it.  My poor twin was such a strong mirror for me.  He did his job well and I know it wasn't easy for him.  I hope he realizes I hold dear to my heart all of my loving memories of him being with me, being kind to me, visiting me, being so patient and kind to me, a true gentleman.  Understanding, gentle and kind.  Respectable, my walking breathing dream come true.  And I still love him dearly.  I'm sure I always will.  He did the most amazing feat for me- he helped heal me of my dark "shadow" energies, and only someone as magnificent and wonderful could have done so.  *sigh*   I may not be with him now but I love him TONS for being my twin soul.  And I miss him too.  I miss my friend.  So remember to be kind inside towards your twin.  They hear and feel your energy towards them so keep it kind.  
  14. This is about YOU not them.  Read that 1000 times until you understand.  This is not about what "they need to heal."  Don't do that- it's pure ego.  This has nothing to do with their healing and all to do with yours (if you are on the end of the silence/distance/blocking, etc.)  Not everyone has the same issues I did.  I had anger that was a result of a HUGE fear I had.  I was afraid that a man could "fall in love with me" at first but then for some reason stop loving me ENOUGH, enough.  That he'd love me but not enough to "choose" me forever.  I guess I did not feel worthy enough, and it only happened when I fell HARD in love.  Then all the irrational, gut-wrenching fears would creep up.  I had to learn my worthiness and realize I am irreplaceable, unforgettable and amazing in every way.  Unique and genuine and very very worthy.  I had to learn how to fall in love with myself too, and then I had to learn to believe that my twin had honestly loved me VERY deeply and he had wanted to stay with me (he even told me so many times) but my fears manifested through him because he is my twin soul.  I've known for a long time that this is about me and not James.  He was very emotionally healthy and ready to be in a strong loving committed relationship; he wanted to be married.  He told me, and he showed me that once he knew me he felt *I* could be that person for him, his wife.  *sigh*  So OF COURSE I still miss him.  I feel inside like I miss my husband and that... that makes it very very hard for me to ever consider committing to marriage with anyone else.  I can love my boyfriend, and I do.  I enjoy sharing my life with him.  But James is the one I wanted to marry, and I am not sure I can ever get past that.  THAT is how much of an impact a twin soul makes on our lives.  So if this "person" you think is your twin soul isn't making that much of an impact on you then it might not be your twin soul at all.  And again please do not get sucked into the whole "this is mutual healing" crap teachings.  It is CRAP.  Those of us stuck on the side of the silence are the ones in need of healing (whatever it is we need to heal.)  It is not about them and what they need to get over, overcome, learn, heal, etc.
  15. OMG they do not need to know you are twin souls!  It totally doesn't matter at all.  There is nothing you need to teach them or get them to understand.  At all.  And if you try then higher self is just going to make your twin be like, "Okay thanks."
  16. When I use the word "heal" please understand something- it is much simpler than you think.  Healing means changing your thinking, changing where you focus your thoughts and energy.  If you can gain charge of your thoughts and focus then you have healed yourself.  When you no longer fret, worry or complain and instead you are very aware of your thoughts, or what you speak, of what you write, and you can OVERCOME thinking about your fears, and when you can IGNORE your worries, and when something crappy happens but you stop yourself from picking up the phone to tell your friend about it and instead you sit down and write out how thankful you are for the delicious coffee you had that morning THEN you are healing.  When you can open a notebook and write deeply about how wonderful YOU are, how beautiful you are, how perfect you are in every single way, how the universe loves you, how YOU love you so so so much, than you are healing.  God I used to loathe myself for no reason.  It is painful to remember how much I was totally incapable of loving myself.  I was not protective of myself and before I met James it was getting worse until I finally stopped the madness, and then I met him.  And since then magically I have learned to truly love, appreciate and be good to myself.  When you get to that place then you are healing.  Overcoming those negative energies is healing.  Being so strong that you choose to not focus on anything negative, no gossip, no discussion crap going on in the world, no reading crap going on in the world and CHOOSING consciously to focus actively (through meditating on it, writing about it, repeating affirmations, etc.) on goodness, love, positive stuff, things you love and are thankful for- that is healing.  "Letting go" of anything crappy and holding on to only what you love is when you are healing.  It does not take chakra work.  You do not need to pay a healer, believe me.  It only takes your own will power.   
  17. Healing does not mean being perfect.  It is not vegan unless you love being vegan.  It does not mean exercising unless you want to exercise.  It does not even mean "healing" your vices.  I still drink, and I work on controlling it because I love myself so much that I hate being hungover, and I get sick from drinking even a very little bit these days.  Healing means overcoming negative thoughts and focus and instead focusing on your joys, on what you love, and focusing on enjoying life- and we do not enjoy life when we feel like we MUST do things. I honestly rarely do anything I do not want to do.  I am "selfish" with my time and energy and that's just fine with me.  I live my life to enjoy it, and to be with those people who I love and who love me and who are of my higher good.   
  18. Start focusing only on goodness in every area of your life.  Do not focus on what you don't like.  Even if you have to address an issue don't ruminate on it.  Take care of it then move on and focus your energy on something you love.  BREW good magic.  Brew good energy.  Affirm anything loving kind and good about you and your twin.  Only goodness.  That good loving energy goes to them.  When you "brew" truth then you will eventually hear truth from your twin.  But when you brew fear then all you will get from your twin is bad hurtful scary stuff.  TRUTH is LOVE.  Focus on love and you will get love and truth.  Focus on shit and you get the shit.
  19. Have hope.  Be loving.  Be good to yourself.  Get enough sleep.  I was emotionally exhausted often and I needed like ten hours of sleep sometimes.  Love yourself and have empathy for yourself.  Cry when you need to- it bring waves of healing to you. This is a challenging painful experience, and my heart goes out to each and every one of you going through it.
  20. Please avoid psychics.  Many will take your money.  And the kicker is many psychics truly are open to spirit and all they tell you is whatever you are thinking of when you call.  YOU may want to know "truth" about your situation but if you are focused on doubts or fears then that psychic that you are paying 7.99 a minute is going to tell you exactly what you fear as if it was your truth.  And it will set you back so so so much with fear.  I would strongly suggest not calling psychics, especially if you are in any emotional distress, fear, doubt, etc.
  21. NEVER lie to your twin.  NEVER.  This is because since it is a psychic spiritual connection he will always know the truth.  You can't hide anything from a twin because spirit will work through them to call you out.  Somehow, even from wherever they are, they always know.  So you gotta be brave enough to be honest and transparent with them at all times.  If you have a secret doubt about something that you are hiding they might just bring it to light, ask you about it, etc. and please don't lie.  A REAL twin soul/twin flame will love you no matter what you see as flaws, vices, etc.  So even if you bare your dirtiest secret to them (or they drag it out of you) they won't judge you (just make sure your energy concerning them is also kind so you can receive a kind interaction from them.) 
  22. Pay attention to your signs and guidance!  If you are ready to call a friend to vent about your twin and the phone call ends suddenly then take that as a sign.  Don't call back!  When you discuss something you strengthen it.   I don't know how many times this stuff happened to me and I stubbornly didn't listen.  Try to learn from my mistakes!  There were times I'd be venting in my journal (nothing good) and a new pen would suddenly stop writing.  I realize now it was my higher self trying to stop me from creating more crap for myself.  Because when I write something down it often comes to me somehow.  Same with speaking it out loud. 
  23. Lastly, and this is one no one likes to hear, when you are ready, when you've cleared your heart and lifted your energy and "healed" yourself from negativity, and when you are living more from a place of love than anything else, you CAN share love again with someone besides your twin flame.  I remember thinking I could NEVER ever love anyone again.  But I have, and I do.  But this can't happen until your energy is ready, loving, kind, forgiving, positive, hopeful, etc.  If you open your heart to love someone else please understand this does not mean you stop loving your twin soul.  I had to make a choice.  I had to choose between "letting go" of my hope to ever see James so I could commit myself fully to another man.  I could not do that, not in a way where I could look a man in the eye and say, "There is no one else for me but you."  I knew if I told another man, "I'll never want anyone but you since I've met you" or "I've never loved anyone as much as I love you" that I would be lying, and I can't handle lying.  Always know whatever you speak out loud becomes "reality" in this experience.  Maybe someone asks you, "Is there anyone special in your life?" and you have not admitted to anyone that you have this secret love for your twin.  Best thing to say is, "I'm not really dating anyone right now but yes there is someone I love dearly."  And if they press you, and if you are not comfy to talk more then just say, "I'd really rather not talk about it, thank you."  But don't day anything like, "Nope, there's no one special in my life."  Because that will stay your reality.  That is why when I met Dave and realized he "liked" me and was hoping I might want to be romantic with him I immediately told him my truth.  That was I told him I was in love with a man who wasn't here in my life, and I would always love him, and I would always want to see him again if the chance arose, and for that reason I stay alone.  He asked me to let him love me anyway.  And here we are.  But I don't think I could have been in a relationship if I would have had to lie or hide my love for James.  I guess God brought me a man who would understand.  So just try to be honest.  If you want to enter into a relationship, one not with your twin, to escape the twin experience then you are definitely not ready; that would be running.  I only feel like I was not a runner being with my boyfriend because I did not go looking for him.  I was not hoping to meet someone else.  I was militantly following my singledom, praying for James, and I was kinda lead to Dave.  And I hold love for both of them in my heart.  When you are in this place then that is when you may be able to love again.  Even if it won't ever be the same type of love or connection you have with your twin. It's okay.  Bittersweet but okay.    

It aches still though.  I look back and wonder what if I had ONLY sent him good loving kind energy?  What if I had affirmed only goodness?  What if I had told the universe from the start how happy I was to have James in my life?  That I know he loves me entirely and wants to be my husband forever?  That he loves being here with me and I am all he wants, and he's wonderful, and kind and good and I am so thankful?  Then he would still be here with me because I would have focused on love instead of fear and doubt.  Wherever you are in your journey try focusing only on the goodness and love, and see what happens.  It can truly make miracles come to you with your twin.  It will make miracles happen to you in life.  YOU ARE ALL STRONG MANIFESTORS and you will bring to you whatever you are focused most on.


I wish you all the best.  It gets better, less painful, once you start pushing out the bad energy and only focusing on the good.  I am not in a lot of pain like I was before.  The only "less than wonderful" energy I have is heartache because I love James and I miss him; I miss my friend who did so much for me even if he has no idea.  I know what he did for me and that's all that matters to me.