Instead keep in mind...
Okay I just have to vent for a moment. Let me start by asking a question. What about "twin souls are creating a new template for love" equates to playing petty little mind games with a "runner?" Please- I'd love for someone to try and explain this to me. I am all for self-respect but I am being shown a healing process where the souls that reside inside the bodies of the human manifestation of twin souls cleverly work together to create healing. This is done through "orchestrating" behaviors in each of the people. Think this is not possible?
Think again. GOD can and will do anything to heal us, especially those of us who are graduate souls with twin soul energy inside of us. We are expected to be Warriors of The Light- not petty silly little ego-based humans.
I keep reading these comments from people about how their "runner" twins stop messaging them. Or deactivate FB, or promise to text and don't, or fall of the face of the earth for weeks or months or even years. It does suck. Been there, done that and got the t-shirt. I don't always LIKE it but I deal with it because I know it is soul working through my twin in order to push and prod and nudge and kick my stubborn willful ass into surrender.
If my twin were to "ignore" me for a few weeks and then suddenly pop up and say hello- do you have ANY idea how destructive it would be to "The Process" for me to ignore him out of a sense of "giving him a taste of his own medicine?" That type of stupid, infantile, ego-base response would be very destructive and would stretch out "The Dance" even longer. So if you want to behave in a stupid egotistical 3D manner to your twin soul when he reaches out to you go right ahead... and suffer longer. Wanna know why you will suffer longer?
BECAUSE MUCH OF IT IS ORCHESTRATED BY SOUL. And soul is pushing us to own the truth about these unions. Soul is pushing us to overlook what is normally perceived to be this insane push and pull between people. Listen I am not saying to allow yourself to be walked all over. There is a difference between a twin soul reaching out to say, "I am thinking of you. I miss you. TTYS" and then doing that strange "runner" disappearing act for a few weeks or months {and this is always to nudge us to think, feel and intend differently} and allowing a guy to come over, sleep with you and then not call you back... ever. There is a difference. If someone you think is your twin soul is clearly using you, abusing you, taking advantage of you- then 1) he's probably not really your twin soul and 2) you are being taught about self-respect so you need to walk away. Now.
Normally what I see in these twin soul unions once "The Dance" begins is the communication is normally done via phone, text or email. And it is sporadic. The runner reaches out then falls away. This is to push the chaser. It is NOT, let me repeat, NOT so the chaser can cross her arms and think, "Well let me ignore him for a while so HE sees how it feels!"
No. NO. no. Just... NO! That's so 3D and silly, and soul does not like 3D and silly. We are supposed to understand that they are being used to HEAL US, and the ignoring is not their choice. The ignoring hurts because many of us stubborn humans *only learn through pain.* It is their soul's choice to fall into silence-mode. They are being orchestrated, at least in that one respect, by soul- listen... they agreed to do this before coming to earth. Just believe it. You can lecture me about "free will" all you want but after what I have experienced with my twin I will just chuckle and pat you gently on the head. "The Dance" will be much easier to deal with once you just surrender and believe what I'm saying here. And this ignoring is done, I'm thinking, only with YOU.; don't you feel special now? And you can hate it all you want but let me give you a choice piece of advice: suck it up. Believe what I am telling you and take a deep breath. Respond from your HEART first by thinking to your twin soul: I understand you are guiding me through my healing. Thank you. Then write back a kind simple hello. And make sure you have pure loving intent behind it. And don't lose your mind when contact comes! Just smile and say hello back. Stay balanced. Stay whole. Just say hi. You may not hear from him again for a while but if you stay in control, and in love, you will most likely be learning and then you will hear back sooner.
DO NOT PLAY GAMES WHEN COMMUNICATING WITH A TWIN SOUL. Soul will, let me repeat, soul will ensure you fall on your ass if you do. And no offense meant, maybe I am feeling oernery today, but after all the lecturing I've done on this topic already- have fun with that. Play petty little 3D games of withholding contact from your twin, being full of ego and fear, and then come back later to let me know how well that worked out for you.
I might just want to say, "I told you so." But I won't. I'll hug you and tell you not to do it again. Resist the temptation to think of this union in 3D. It's not. It's divine. It is two souls working together to push the Hell out of your buttons. Don't let those buttons be pushed. Be loving and patient and kind and KNOWING that there is more to this than appears at the surface. Your twin soul is making a SACRIFICE in not expressing his love and longing for you. Do you think it feels good for him to behave in ways that are abnormal for him? No- it's not. They don't feel good either- but they don't know why. Have some sympathy and compassion for the soul who is trying to heal you... I know it isn't easy but this is the path we chose before we came to earth. Resist and suffer longer. Surrender and let it flow.
Oh and another side effect of being patient and kind with your twin? It flows over to other areas of your life like at work with coworkers or with family... you start to lose ego and respond more from soul. You begin to learn the beauty of responding instead of reacting. This is called learning unconditional love- creating a new template for love on earth. Pretty cool huh?
Okay okay. Rant over. LOVE yourself enough to know this is for a divine healing purpose because, come on, who would REALLY want to ignore your amazingness, right?? And love your twin. Don't play games.
Over and out. Love and Light.
~Rose
Dear Rose,
ReplyDeleteHappy to see you back in kick-ass shape (and no censorship for foul words here (-; )
OK, in fact I think I disagree, at least in our case. I had a big lashing-out and "now this is over" kind of argument with my TF and in fact it proved to be exactly what was needed to puncture the big balloons of fears that hung over our heads. It was not kind and forgiving and "I'll endure this cause it's soul driven" based, not at all, and I regretted my harsh words. But guess what... now we are back on track, more in LOVE than ever before, and will reunite soon, so there must be some exceptions to your rules I guess...
Not that I think the "Soul asks him to be silent for my own growth" theory is wrong, at some point of time when I run myself and didn't want to do the first "make-up" gesture as usual, I thought this is in fact what happened to me. But I was wrong. We still have free wills. And come to think of it, isn't it a bit "ego-driven" too to think that Soul manipulates someone to be silent just for your own progress? Isnt' it denying HIS own issues (honestly I think he has some, clearly, don't be blind...), his own struggle, and own need for spiritual progress too? What is YOUR purpose for HIM then? It's never a one-way street, at least it shouldn't be if it's real Love.
OK now I hope you don't hate me for having a dissenting voice and in any case I wish you all the best and the happiness you and your son and your TF deserve.
Hugs
FF
Hi FF! I am feeling fucking fabulous ;) And while I will agree to disagree with you I am SO happy to hear that you and your TF are back on track! So glad to hear it :) Also I think we do have free will to a point. But when it comes to twin flame unions I think those two people have predestined agreements together that are unique to them alone. I have watched my twin behave oddly. I have strange voicemails from him where, back then, I wondered just what the Hell was going on with him to have him call me in the middle of the night only to whisper, sadly, "I love you" then pause and hang up. Back when we dated he'd text me "I want to love you" after telling me just how insanely in love he was with me. I used to wonder why he'd be so strange and now I know. I don't think it is ego-driven at all for Spirit to work through my twin in order to ensure my energy is clear and elevated enough to "shift." I also feel my twin's "issues" are due to the fact that the poor man has no idea why one moment he is literally dying to hop on a plane and drag me into his arms, waking at 3 AM because he's compelled to write to me to tell me he is "obsessed" with me telling me he wishes he could wake to my beautiful face every morning and wants to have a baby with me but then the next moment he's... I dunno- scared of me? Apprehensive? Indifferent? Shut down? And he doesn't know why. He must feel crazy because on a 3D level I treat him no differently- he just is not aware that telepathically our souls are working us. I have another friend who has a twin soul. Her guidance tells her that "our souls cleverly work together" to create healing. So feel free to believe what makes you comfortable. I know how hard it is to believe- even I still struggle with it yet I watch it play out in my own life. I think my purpose is simply to love him for helping me, and just for being the wonderful gem he is.
DeleteHi Rose! I'm going to have to agree and disagree with the above as well. Only because I would like to share my experience. It has actuallky gone both ways. There have been times when I have been living in evo and totally cruel (In the beginning before I understood what was happening) I hurt him with my mean words and I think that drove him further away ... but not too long ago after I realized what was going on, and I was tired of the warm heart from him one day and cold heart the next (at least thats what it felt like) i finally sent him a long email that basically said, I love you and I will never stop loving you but I do NOT NEED you in my life. I am done with this game.
ReplyDeleteIt was the first time he ever wrote back a long sincere email about how he was sorry to hear that I didn't need him in my life and that he had always loved me etc..
... and then of course I felt terrible and came back with the I'm so sorry, I love you .. blah blah blah and he never wrote back.
It was almost as if he needed to know that I was there, somewhere, thinking about him.. and for me its the same.. I just want to know he's thinking about me, missing me.. but living happily.
Ego sucks, but I also think in a way its necessary. Not to be cruel, but to stand up for ourselves and to love ourselves. It has to be tamed.
Love you and LOVE your posts!!!
Like above said, I agree that he was the catalyst to my awakening .... but what is my purpose for him? What have I done for him? What do you feel you do for your twin?
Aghhhh! (Insert huge sigh here) What is the whole point of all this madness anyway.
I am in love with my boyfriend who is a soulmate, but how do I escape tf always lingering somewhere ... little reminders, obviously from the universe. I love both of these men. Is that ok?
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ReplyDeleteAnd Jamie- yes I feel it is totally okay to love both men. We can love more than one person. Love is a good thing so don't feel guilty for loving more than one person.
ReplyDeleteAhhh I spewed off some fear concerning my Joron and I didn't want it out there festering in the universe so I deleted it. I have my weak moments too! You can always feel free to share your opinions! All of our experiences will be and are different :) My post was mainly to say that the petty little "tit for tat" 3D tussling back and forth between twin souls isn't productive. This is not to say that deep conversations or even debates/arguments will not be necessary- they should be done with love and care if possible. We are not perfect. We are not "all soul." We are souls having a human learning experience and we are doing our best! In my experience, which I am finding to be more and more unique, I am being shown a strong pattern where my twin soul refuses to overlook anything in me that needs to be addressed and purged. He is my ultimate mirror. He will ignore me to spur me to address all the lingering issues that cause me to feel unworthy of his love. So the longer I stay stuck in 'Why is he ignoring me?" instead of owning what I become aware of through his quiet- the longer I struggle. The man has never been cruel to me. He has only gone a bit cold {when I doubt and ignore my love for him} and falls into that eerie silence that we all find so painful. And it is to heal me, and I think it hurts him and makes him question himself. I may be the only one who sees my situation this way but no one else is walking in my shoes. No one else hears Joron's voice on the phone oozing love, kindness and longing then feels him disappear when I don't believe or when I doubt. In my case it would be detrimental to shove in his face what I know is done through Spirit to help increase my awareness. If there ever comes a day where I must address his silence then I will- but that day has not come yet because I still refuse to completely listen, see, accept and believe.
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ReplyDeleteI totally understand. My TF has never been cruel to me either. Maybe once or twice things came out of his mouth that weren't encouragin, but when I BEGGED him to tell me that he didn't love me, he couldn't he wouldn't and he never has. He won't. About a year and a half after our initial break up he messaged me to tell me that he figured it out, that of course he loved me as a "friend" but that he got caught up in the lust. (??) This was not lust. Or if it was.. I wasnt to be lustful again! Ha ha
ReplyDeleteI hate the ignoring, The ignoring me killed me. It made me feel so worthless and so empty. I didn't understand WHY anyone would IGNORE someone! I begged him just to give me some kind of closure. I don't think I will ever have closure. (other than what I understand about tf's).
Okay here is my two cents. He did *not* get caught up in the "lust." This will be hard for you to believe but I think that was Spirit's way to push you. We are supposed to look past feeling worthless and empty when they fall into silence. It's a twin soul thing. *deep sigh* Joron tried that with me too right after we separated. My guidance was schooling me on all of this, telling me he'd be pushing my fears at me. So he told me "I know it was just attraction. Yep- it must have been just attraction." I wanted to cry but instead I told Spirit I didn't buy it. I knew he was pushing me. I knew it wasn't true. What we shared was pure and genuine- we waited to make love longer than most couples our age would and he said he'd wait forever because he loved being with me so much... that "sex" wasn't what he was after. I faced him down on that fact and he "came to." He said, "Oh you're right. We did have that insane connection didn't we? Wow- you ARE a great gal! I can tell you anything." Can you say surreal? Totally surreal.
DeleteI think Spirit is still waiting for you to own the fact that this man DID totally love you, and he probably still does. It won't be until you can completely 100% realize he stopped communicating with you because he's your twin soul and was meant to do so that there would ever be any resolution. Personally I think these unions can get so askew that it takes years to get back on track.
I do know what you mean about the ignoring feeling worthless and empty. I still battle with that even though I see the truth. Every time I fall back into belief though he's come back. Your twin will not tell you he doesn't love you. Mine never had. NEVER. If anything he would write, out of the blue, something small and weird but say "Just know I love you." Hard to believe with weeks of silence yet it was always there. And he refuses to give me any closure too; in some cases I just don't think we are meant to hear "I don't love you" or "goodbye." Just know the ignoring is for a purpose. It sucks but many are going through the same thing so I know it's a divine process, even if it's a strange one.
Jamie I have one more comment for you: what if his hot and cold was orchestrated by Spirit? I'm just throwing that out there. The way I look at it is if my twin is being urged by Spirit to "push" me, and he does this by going hot and cold to me, then it can't feel good for him. I am pretty sure it makes HIM question HIS own sanity at times. Once out of the blue he wrote to me and said, "I feel so bad. I feel like I've hurt you. I'm so sorry. I wish we could start over. I wish..." and I knew, all the way back then, he felt this- he felt the spiritual push and pull and it weighed on his heart. So if I were to write to him and tell him how I can't handle this anymore, how he's pushed me too far, etc.- then I'd basically be throwing guilt at him when he honestly doesn't deserve it because he's only following the urging of his Higher Will in going silent, so he can help heal me. I would be, in essence, punishing him for helping me. Maybe this sounds insane to most people but I *feel* the sorrow in him when he writes to me. I feel that he doesn't want to be doing this... so there is no way I could ever write to him and tell him how bad this makes me feel. It would kill him because he is as confused as I am- but he doesn't have Spirit talking to him explaining it all every step of the way like I do. I just can't see it from the perspective of "having respect for myself" by confronting him when I believe in my heart he is falling into silence to help purge me of all my lingering self-doubts. He is my mirror and I will love him for that.
ReplyDeleteIf I did do that to him I fear I would really derail our union and I'd probably not hear from him for a long time. This is a sensitive process and I'm trying to protect and nurture it as much as I can while I increase my awareness and healing. I hope that makes sense.
No actually that makes complete sense! As a matter of fact when you wrote that on one of your blog entry's it was like a light bulb went off inside of me. It was a trigger and it made absolute sense. Everything connected. Why he left so abruptly. Why he was so depressed for two months after he left. Why he seemed confused. Why he couldn't be near me. All the songs he posted on facebook. That one thing helped the pieces fit together. This wasn't him.. and his apology was also SO sincere.. He didnt want to leave, but he had no choice. :( When I realized he was my twin, unlike you.. I kept chasing because I KNEW HE LOVED ME! I wanted to stop him before he got too far out of reach, but its like trying to grab a ball floating on the water.. the harder you try, the further it gets away from you. I wish I had just let go. But I NEEDED him to know how much I loved him. I don't think he believed in my love. HE WAS SO SCARED. Everyone in his life (including parents) had abandoned him.. why wouldn't I?
ReplyDeleteIts heartbreaking and that is why I was SO glad to find your blog.. you helped me understand the hot and cold.. the push and pull... the ignoring. I've totally let go now and I haven 't heard from him in months.. He has a fiance and she's pregnant... I doubt I will ever hear from him again and yet I will never forget, not even for a moment, the love that he made me feel. I will treasure it and honor it and hold it close and secretly I will yearn for it for the rest of my days.
I think one day you will reunite. The Divine will find a way to make it happen. Just please please have faith. My Joron feels depressed to me at times too. I am so glad my posts help you. I have another blog post ready to go that will make some Twin Soul experts cringe. I don't believe that "the runner" runs simply because he is "overwhelmed." No. I think it is the predestined moment between the two souls where separation is meant to occur for healing to be done. I think the runner HURTS because he does not want to run. My guy was in shock when he left me; he cried when he moved away. He cried over me. He got to CA and told me on the phone "I feel like I'm having a heart attack. I can't breathe. I need reassurance that I'm not going to lose you." UGH- and about two months ago he told me on the phone, "I just feel like I might lose you" and this was coming from a man who seemingly was no longer my "boyfriend" yet here he was telling me "I'm afraid I am going to lose you." It is magical and surreal and just so fucking hard to believe but it is there.
DeleteDon't feel bad Jamie. Just accept the love and know in your heart that he did not ignore you because he didn't love you. And see? I think THIS is why I am supposed to write a book. Only my spiritual guidance has saved this union between me and Joron; without my guidance I would have ran too. I chased for a week or two then stopped- I became scared and wanted to retreat. I felt he was a monster. I had to overcome that and love him fully in order for us to come back closer again. But only my guidance pulled me through so don't feel bad. Just love him and feel confident that inside he totally loves you. Pregnancies happen. Romance happens. But twin souls are always linked.
AHHHH! I love you and am so thankful that we can talk about this. I have chills right now (and tears) you said something that totally clicked. When my twin ran and was ignoring me, the only way I was able to keep up with him was to watch his facebook posts. One day he posted these words "I have to keep reminding myself to breathe." I was feeling the same way. I swear I felt as thought I had been disconnected from life support, trying to survive on my own and I felt as though I was gasping for air all the time.
ReplyDeleteMeeting him honestly felt like a reunion, a coming home. I know that words are SO cliche but its the truth. I had never felt so WHOLE in my life. And that separation left a gaping hole inside of me that was more painful than anything I have ever experienced. BUT, like you said, it healed me in so many ways. The scar remains and yet I have purged SO MUCH in the process and I have never loved more. I love me, I love the trees, strangers, the flowers, I love ants, and bugs.. my love is SO VAST.. because of the love that he reminded me of.
Like you, I thought my tf was a monster too. I couldn't understand it! When I went to find him, he wouldn't even look at me and he kept yelling for me to get away from him.. and as I stopped I felt something inside of me say he's broken too.. and I looked at him and he was crying. :( So I walked away ...
I've only seen him a hand full of times since then and I try to keep my distance but that love, it never fades. I can feel it bursting between us without a word.
I hope one day I get to see those eyes again. In this life, the next, tomorrow or 10,000 years from now. I will wait. I will never stop waiting.
... I thought about writing a book once, started one at least 10 times ...but I just can't find the words to describe this experience.
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ReplyDeleteThank you Rose for you enlightening words.
ReplyDeleteI did all those mistakes that you mentioned in the original article.
But no more now...Thank you so much.
WL be kinder and more patient and loving towards him when he comes back this time.
Thank you thank you thank you.
Wow...
ReplyDeleteIt was your sign off "over and out" that just had me gasp. For months my twin flame
Would sign off "over and out" and I would "correct" her and say "out but NOT over"
And she would say "haha yes!"
And now it's all come to a devestating, crashing disconnect and it well and truly is
Over and out in this life it seems.
Grief. Love. Hurt. Shock. Disappointment.
So much love and so much pain.
Just remember if she is your twin flame then it's never "over" and appearances are never what they seem unless the situation is just love. Anything less that love is not truth in a twin soul/twin flame union. I am sorry to hear that you are hurting. I hope your heart and the situation eases soon. Also remember your very words create reality in these unions so when you write what you did above, that it's over and out in this life, your twin will show you that even more the more you write it say it or think it. Best wishes. It will get better!
ReplyDeleteMine said he loves me more than he's ever loved anyone then three days later moved out. I've been heartbroken all year. He's told me he doesn't love me. I'm at the questioning stage.. Did it happen? Was it real? Did he ever love me? He insists he meant it when he said he loved me more than anyone. He has ceased al communication. Only time I hear from him is when I text or email first. What do I do? I hate game playing but I don't know what to do.
ReplyDeleteIB first off what I will say here applies if this man is really your twin soul. If he is then he's being your mirror and the only way you can change it is by going within and seeing what you are thinking, believing, doubting, fearing, saying, writing, etc. that is manifesting him "acting" this way to you. Because if he's your twin then it's an act and he honestly does love you. This does not mean stalk him and tell him, "I know you love me" all the time. Just know that he loves you, allow his love. In a twin soul union it's all about shifting your energy and beliefs. If you fear that he does not love you, even the tiniest bit, then that's exactly what he will show you- that he does not love you. If he's not your twin soul then I have no clue. Sometimes people just change their minds. But in a twin soul connection the love is there be he will act as your mirror to show you what you think about yourself and what he thinks about you.
DeleteI'm 27 years old and my twin is 62 years old and she is married. She has the key of my house. I know that she laid with me in bed in the morning when I slept and I know that things has happend. And I bet for 100% that I responded! And reacted the same way she did! One day a stranger sended me a request on facebook. I accepted. She chatted with me. I didn't know it was her... but when she asked me about marriage. I said no. And that I'm only spiritual married. She wanted to know with whom. At that moment her energy went of the roof. A few days later I contacted her and I said I know it was her and I said her name! She was like shit. I expressed what I felt. Not really directly. She blocked me. On my mothers facebook I saw that she still had that fake facebook profile. I felt like playd for a fool. I told her it's not ok to make people fall in love with her by using a fake picture and fake name. I told her that she could whatch catfish so she knows what kind of inpact fake profiles can have on people who fall in love. I can't go on like this. I retried. She screams my name every day a milion times. I hear her scream my name! Every single day. I don't want to be part of this game of hers. I can't put myself through this. I went through a lot in my life. Very hard stuff. I won't cling on her like... I'm desperate. It's an insecurity act. And a ego act. I can't do this to mysef. If it was for me.. man. I want to rip her clothes off!!! I never fet this for no one! I love having astral seks with her. But I just can't be part of this! Please help me! Any comment is welcome
ReplyDeleteDiana I'm so sorry but I can't help you. I am sorry you are hurting though, and I wish you the best.
DeleteI am a guy and my twin flame got engaged last year. This year she is getting married. It was family arranged and she now admits she regrets it. But still seems to want to go ahead with it. I told her i love her last year and she did not say she loved me back. Though i know she does.
ReplyDeleteWe message each other almost daily for 4-5 years. But in recent months she can go for a few days without replying to my messages. I usually keep messaging her until she decided to respond again and everything seems fine until she ignores me again. I finally got fed up with it last week and decided to cut her off for a while. Its now been a week and she has not made any attempt to get in touch. Lets see how long this goes. I cant keep acting like a loser desperate for her attention. Especially since she is going to get married to another guy (whom she does not like). Since she got engaged i stopped the flirting comments and kept it on a friendship level. But currently she has been getting on my nerves with her random ignoring business.
If she really is your twin flame, and if you have read parts of my blog, then you should try and understand {and this is only if she's your TF} that the ignoring is a reflection of you, what you think about her, what you think about how she thinks about you, and what you think about yourself. Again if you've had all the signs and synchs and stuff that point to her being a TF then the best thing to do is talk to her on a soul level, know she loves you, and know she is your partner through soul. As your TF I believe she wants to be with you but YOU have to believe this fully too. If you do not then she will always "show" you that she is not choosing you, and that does pretty much suck. I wish you well.
DeleteWell, i have fantasised about other girls (i am a straight guy with a very high sex drive). And i currently know two women who have been flirting with me. But i have not physically done anything with them, because i feel like i would be cheating on my twin (even though she is on the verge of marrying another man). But it could be that myself taking a mild interest in these girls has somehow reached my twin half way across the globe and might explain why she is acting funny with me. This would perhaps further prove that she is my twin if she is able to feel me on that kind of level.
DeleteSo i am going to try avoiding all flirtatious contact with other females. Even cutting out mental fantasies. It wont be an easy thing to do for me, but i will try it and see if it makesa difference
Yes I agree it might be a very good idea to make sure your intentions are totally clear and pure. I say this because I've had experience in what happens when intentions are not clear, and you don't want to have to deal with it believe me.
DeleteBut you know, she is not perfect either. She carries alot of emotional baggage from her past. Which she indirectly admitted to me once. This affects the way she views men. It could be that she feels something deep for me but is afraid to come to terms with it. She once told me that she is afraid to fall in love with another man. Which is why she agreed to an arranged marriage (which she now regrets).
DeleteThere is not much I can tell you about your situation. The best thing you could do, since she is your twin flame and it's a very unique soul connection, is use your energy to speak to her through soul. Instead of telling me that she is not perfect either because she carries emotional baggage try to shift that to thinking she is healthy, strong and ready for a relationship with YOU instead of this other man. If for some reason you are playing the role of what is normally called the "chaser" then you must create this. The more you think she is wounded or has issues the more she will show this to you by staying away from you. These unions are so different than what we are used to. I'd suggest doing what I am trying to focus on right now myself- only focus on what you love about her and anything good you've had together in the past. See if that helps anything. Trying to analyze it like you are doing right now will only energetically make it worse. She will stay even more quiet and pull farther away. I wish you the best.
DeleteAlso I want to add, as your twin flame I do believe through energy you have the chance to get her to come back to you and be with you. But to make this happen you need to NEVER ever focus on her being engaged. Never focus on what you do not want because when you do you actually energize and empower and "make more real" that which you do not want. I've experienced this myself so I know what I am saying really happens, especially in twin soul experiences. Never mention her engagement again. Pretend like it does not exist. Instead tell yourself, and even write it down, that she is yours, that she wants you, that you are meant to be her husband and never talk about or write about that other man. Hey- what's the worst that can happen from at least trying to use your energy? You'll never know if you do not try.
DeleteThanks ill try it
DeleteRose,
DeleteHow does your comment about pretending that the engagement does not exist extend to marriage?
Amanda, interesting question because with marriage I'd suggest the same. And NO it's not "ignoring the truth" or "being in denial." I know how strange it sounds but with the twin flame connection whatever you focus on or obsess about or worry over will be shown back stronger to you. I experienced this myself. I really did. It takes so much hard work emotionally but you have to get to a place where you do not focus on him being married. No reaction to it, no thinking about it or worrying about it. No fixating on it. Because if you do, and if this person is your twin, then your thinking or fixating on it will actually make it be shown to you stronger, more evidence of it, your twin putting it in your face more often, etc. It's SO not fun, learning how to control what we are manifesting into our reality. Focus on other things concerning your twin, other good positive things. This is the rule to follow: focus ONLY on what you want more of, and that is because whatever you are focusing on is what you will get more of- the universe makes it so. It's actually very neutral and objective- but if you are focusing on your twin being married then you will create seeing more of your twin being married come in to your reality. And sometimes twins have found out that even though they THOUGHT the other one was married (or was told the other one was married) in the end it wasn't even true. But don't try to find out if it is true because in looking for evidence you are still validating it, and then you make it stronger.
DeleteYou have to be strong enough to disregard it altogether. Focus on other things. If you are serious about your twin soul journey and actively want it to change then force yourself to be strong enough to focus only on what you want more of, and do this in every aspect of your life because your twin is showing you that you are a manifestor- that's what he's doing; he's forcing you to realize you ARE creating your reality through what you think, speak, write, etc. "into existence" and this applies to all aspects of your life like work, money, etc. Best to you!
DeleteRose,
DeleteThanks for the advice. I have just caught up to the last entries in your blog. Due to you I have added journaling to my daily spiritual regimen with my early morning meditation. Also your words on mirroring have made me realize my spouse and children are serving that role in my life. Lastly I have begun my inner healing by reading books on spiritual enlightenment by Richard Rohr and Eckhart Tolle. Any other hints for my inner healing would be appreciated. Thanks and good luck with your journey.
Hi Rose
ReplyDeleteI met my tw 3 years ago and this is the second time he has run.Even though I'm hurt I could never be angry with him or play tit for tat.The second time together was even more intense than the first. I dream about him still and still feel the energy between us. He has a drink problem and l know this is a huge issue .The hard thing is that l know I can't fix him and l have my own healing to do. The strange thing about the tf relationship is that there is no feelings of resentment.We are still connected and l often dream about him.I know he will return but I do feel that the running stage really really forces you to look inside yourself and it's probably one of the hardest things I've ever been through.
Aw, I really wish the best for you! Be good to yourself while you heal and you will reach that light at the end of the tunnel.
DeleteI was with him for four years. I loved him so much and he always said how perfect I am and how unworthy of me he feels himself to be. And it hurt me so much that I decided to let it all just go. I left him but it hurt me to the core and I miss him but he became a chaser now and I became a runner and I feel that I love him and will always do but I am scared. i don't want to be with him anymore and at the same time I do. I just don't want to go through hell and back again. And at the same time we have that telepathic connection so he can feel my emotions/thoughts and I can feel his. But I am just so scared. I feel that now he wants nothing and no one else but me. But at the same time I am scared that if I returned he will run away again and I couldn't handle it anymore. I'm just so tired.
ReplyDeleteI hope you get things all sorted out. These soul relationships can be a challenge. I wish you the best. Go with what your heart tells you!
DeleteGood day,
ReplyDeleteThank you for the article, I am so happy than someone could finally clarify this for me. I am currently in the phase where my TF wants nothing to do with me, and he could not even give me a valid explanation of why he is running. I have beaten myself up with so many questions of why he is doing this, because our connection was undeniable so much so that both of us could not explain what we were feeling, he said i confused him and that he has never been confused until he met me, almost like he was loosing control, and for a man like him who has everything under control in his life, this was quite big. So many times I wanted to reach out to him and tell him how much he is hurting me, but after this article I know now what to do. I am going to let this go and just go with the flow. I know understand what my soul needs and will respect it. I miss him every single day and he is constantly in my thoughts, but for now i will let him go.
Thank you so very much!
My very best regards,
I definitely would not reach out to tell him how much he is hurting you. You need to realize, and I know how difficult this can be, that he is not hurting you on purpose or because he wants to. It has something to do with him reflecting your thoughts, beliefs, worries, anger, doubts, skepticism, etc. back to you. And the more you believe he is hurting you then the more he will because you are manifesting more and more of it. I know it can be hard but think good thoughts about him. I think we are all going through very intense experiences of learning that we truly are manifestors. Look up Cassady Cayne and read through her blog. She can help you. I don't think you need to never reach out to your twin again. Spend some time balancing your energy and then say hello. You never know what could happen. Your energy can create miracles.
DeleteMet them twelve years ago that there was a connection but it was it was strong friendship because he hide certain parts of himself self away.Find out eleven later who he really was when he was involved in a karmic relationship and finally had all the information about him so that I could permantly get him out of my life I do have abilities that allow me communicate with people and light being spirits which I did lose a bit of control over but now a year later I have enough control of it to permantly get him out of my life now that I have all the information about him,his karmic relationship and that his had a child last year even though he doesn't want to let go of the karmic relationship because he can't be in a proper relationship nor doesn't he want to let of our relationship,he just wants to control it and turn it into his next karmic relationship because he refuses to work on himself to heal,I will finally be able to get him permantly out of my life,I refuse to ever forgive him for all the damage that his caused.
ReplyDeleteI hope you find peace.
DeleteOmg!!!! Thanks for this, I am new to all of this, I have known my Twin all of my life and since we were 11 yrs old and now we are 35 yrs old. I don't know why it took me so long to figure out our special connection. I knew it was special, I knew that I would always love him. I moved to another state across country at 18 yrs old and still remains in Michigan. We stay in contact on and off constantly coming back to each other some how. Once I popped up in Michigan and he did not know. I was talking to a family member about him and how much I missed him and wish I could find him. He is a none artist. My cousin knew someone who knew him and bam...he was in my presence happy and wondering how did we find each other again. That was ten years ago. Lol . Since then it's been a cat and mouse kinda thing. But I am learning to surrender and focus on me. It has been very hard to understand because one day as I was thinking it just came to me while I was alone doing soul searching for self improvement, and I said this man has to be my Twin Flame, not really sure what it meant. I wonder how long it will be before he knows it. Maybe he does already lol.
ReplyDeleteI hope it comes together for you soon :)
DeleteI have made the commitment to wait for my TF while she runs. Every time she invites contact with me, I take it. I am learning patience of a 1000 lifetines, but she is worth every bit of it.
ReplyDeleteHey Rose! I love this article because it was everything I needed to hear. Me and my potential TF are non-romantic because I am married and he has a girlfriend. We met by chance 8 years ago, a close friend called and invited us to a free room at a friend's pent house suite and of course me and my husband, then boyfriend, hopped on the road. At the very moment I saw him, the friend that owned the pent house, I felt like I knew him. We decided to go out that night and was almost at the club when me and my boyfriend decided to go back to the hotel. I could tell he did not like this but was unsure why. Could have been he didn't want us in the room alone or he wanted to party with us, me in particular. Long story short we all became friends and we have some of the same views and hobbies. We fell out of touch when he moved away and I got married and now have 2 kids. I reached out to him one day last year after years of no contact, because for some reason he was just on my mind and I didn't know why. He responded that all was well and asked about my family. He paints and so I asked for a painting. He delivered it within 2 days and I decided to get another. This time it took forever. I started to feel like a stalker because I couldn't get him off my mind no matter what I did. During this time I was dealing with my husbands infidelity and so this just amplified my feelings for him. Which were turning romantic for me but not for him. We hugged after I received the first painting and I saw him staring at my ass while I walked around looking at his other work. After a couple weeks I called to check on 2nd painting and no reponse. He finally got back to me off and on setting a time for pickup but never came through. Always an excuse. After a couple months I reached out again, same thing, said I could pick up but didn't answer when I called or text. I was mad but most of all confused. I was still cyber stalking and the only way I could refrain was to unfriend him on all my social media. He may have thought it was because I was mad which I was but that wasn't the only reason I did it. I still haven't received my painting and it's been a year. I reached out recently twice to check on him and he will not respond at all even though I see he's seen the messages. My question is this, why do you think he's ignoring me? Is he not my TF and just an asshole? He's 4 years younger than me also so I chalk it up to immaturity. Highly Confused!
ReplyDeleteI wish I could answer your question for you. It is impossible to tell someone else if a person is a TF. With me there are signs, synchs, he reads my mind, etc. And we did have a very big love relationship together although I am not sure if all TF have that. It is pretty obvious the connection we have is out of the ordinary. But only you would know this about you and this man. I can't say whether he is ignoring you but I would not assume he is an asshole. Take some time and see if he reaches out to you is really all I can say. I wish you well!
DeleteKinda new to this. Do people tell their twin who they think they are ?
ReplyDeleteSome people do yes. Personally I don't think it matters either way. If you tell him that he is your twin he is only going to acknowledge the connection if he is meant to. If he is not meant to, or if your energy won't let him, then he won't. I don't think it can hurt anything and it's up to you if you feel like telling him or not. Best wishes to you!
DeleteMy twin flame keeps running and returning but I had no idea what idea of what was happening until I felt a dude urge to look ok on the Internet and Google twin flames . I thought he just didn't feel the same about me so when he returned two weeks ago I didn't really welcome him I m in so much pain now as I havnt seen him and it's clear he doesn't want to see me ! What should I do
ReplyDeleteFirst of all work on striking the belief that he "doesn't want to" see you out of your mind. It's not that he does not want to see you. He can't see you due to your energy and what you are believing about him. Most male twins do come and go and I know it is so disappointing because we love them and wish they could just stay and be with us. It has to do with energy. The female energy is the creative energy, and then they become what we've created through what we think, love, believe or even fear. So if you believe stuff like he does not want to see you or he stays away because he doesn't want to come forward then he has to actually play out to you that he doesn't want to. Because you think it. But he does love you and wants to be with you so he keeps coming back and trying again and again. I know you are in pain. I am so sorry that you are hurting. Best thing you can do is start talking to him in your head or in a private journal telling him you know he is a good man and he does love you and he wants to see you. Shift your beliefs about him and his intentions around. It really is all you can do for now.
ReplyDeleteAlso I understand it is not easy to apply. Welcome to why I'm still separated after three years. My mind battles with my heart so really try to focus and believe that he does want you and that he's a good man. And the next time he reaches out, and he will, tell him this silently in your head while you lovingly respond to him. Use your energy like it literally is magic. I swear to you it really is the only "power" we have in this connection. I'm trying so hard to do this myself right now so I am right there with you. Best wishes to you! It will all be okay!
DeleteHi Rose
ReplyDeleteMy TF and I met at 17!! It was instant Love of a lifetime!! We had a bad breakup but still couldn't completely let go of each other. We saw each other here and there for a couple years. At 23 we seperated as I ran from him because he was drinking and partying out of control. I married at 27 and had 3 children. I was diagnosed with Cancer in 2014 and underwent a full year of chemo and surgery. I only was given a 25% chance of Survival. In 2015 I was Cancer Free. I had a huge spiritual awakening and months after chemo I suddenly started getting this voice from soul to find him, reach out to him. I had no idea why and at first didn't want to. A month went by of that and I finally gave in and messaged him on Facebook. He told me how much he's missed me and how happy he is I'm healthy now and he showed tremendous intrest in me. I must also add that my marriage is on the Rocks at this time. He knew this from our conversation. We met up and it was like immediate sparks again. He disappeared but showed back up a month later we had deep conversations about how crazy we are about each other and always were. Then he decided it wasn't going to ever work out cause I was married and he didn't want to wait for me to get divorced etc. I agreed and let go. A month later heard from him again and I jokingly said just admit you love me. He told me that he didn't want to get into it but I "Fucked him up". Then we had a deep conversation and he said it was getting too deep and shut down on me. Since then it's been on and off. He has begged me to come see him he's so depressed at times. I have been super patient and loving. I saw him about a month ago and I felt the love so strong but a day later he cut me off again. I reached our with no response and then 3 weeks later reached out again and he responded but I never replied. A male friend of mine told me that I was being too available to him and that makes me less disrable so I should ignore him to get him back. I noticed he posted under a couple posts I liked on a mutual friends page I guess to let me know he's there but I haven't heard from him. It's been 18 days and it's doing nothing but hurting me and I'm honestly feeling horrible because I know it's hurting him. I don't want to play this game anymore but now I don't know what to do. Do I contact him??
The only thing I can tell you is I do not believe in playing games, like ignoring him in the hopes it will bring him back. If you feel like contacting him then do so but be honest in whatever you say to him. Just be sincere. Also, there is also the small possibility, if he really is your TF, that you are being shown to address your marriage and makes some changes. You can't be married to one man and involved with another, not forever. If you are not happy in your marriage then your TF's "on and off again" behavior might be a sign that you need to make some changes in your life. I wish the best for you!
DeleteI was already intuitive and empathic when I met my twin. I had never heard of this concept before, but I knew I would be with him when I saw him from across the street. And we had an incredible connection and I said it's like we're brother and sister but not that it's like we're "twins." I then googled it and discovered all this info. But he was a player with a primary gf and then other women he kept on the hook. And he didn't want a commitment, he wanted to play the filed. He was disloyal to me in the beginning and then relented and committed, but then kept female "friends" behind my back. He did get better and better about how he treated me and his commitment but every time he'd f up I'd break up with him. Finally, the last time, his f up me leaving he put me on silent for the last 7 months. I nearly died of a blood clot days before Christmas and I emailed him. He read it 7 times, but never replied. I then saw him check my LinkedIn profile the day after Valentine's so I emailed him. He read that 3 times then forwarded to his gf in California. Suddenly, last evening, I have a wall of pinterest quotes on twins when I haven't been clicking or following. I wake up at 4 am feeling him and can't get back to sleep. I feel that something is wrong in his life, but I can't bring myself to reach out again only to experience the extreme pain of rejection through silence. I'm not playing games at all. He knows I'm here. He knows I still love him and care and he knows that if he called me I'd drive right over. I want to move on, but I just can't. It's more painful than anything I've ever experienced in my entire life. Thoughts or suggestions? Normally when I feel this strongly about something being wrong, the sense won't calm down or go away and stop driving me crazy until I reach out to the person.
ReplyDeleteI really don't have any advice! I am sorry. I suppose you could try reaching out to him and see what happens. Just make sure your thoughts and stuff are in order before you do. The wall of quotes is definitely odd. Only thing I can say is if you love him and believe him to be your twin soul then think well of him as much as you can. If you feel confident enough to email him then do it but if not send him good thoughts in your heart. Beyond that I really don't have much advice for you. Best wishes to you though!
DeleteHiya! SUCH an interesting read. Thank you for explaining this amazing connection in a very articulate way I could never begin to do myself. I've gotta say, you hit the nail on the head sooooo many times. My circumstances are that confusion and misunderstanding happened between my twin and I big time. We met online after years of waiting for the One.(virgo so we wait literally ages for the one) and it's safe to say we had a fairy tale situation happen. Which makes it all the more painful now. I haven't heard from him in over 3 years and he is acting in a way I know hurts his own heart. I know I have been given the insight to the dynamics of a twin flame connection after our separation, and I'm not sure if he has to the same extent so I almost feel the pressure of being the one to always take the higher stand point even though I am grateful and feel blessed. But what about him? Is he learning by MY actions? He has acted very self destructively. To himself and us. I am aware that could be his healing, I just hope it doesn't go too far whereby I find it impossible to forgive him. I am constantly aware of the nature of the career he has, which encourages egotism and he is surrounded by it big time. He is however extremely spiritual and listens to his signs and messages. What are your thoughts? :)
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts are if he really is your twin flame then you have to focus on yourself. You can love him but you can't be focused on "But what are HIS lessons? What does HE have to learn? Why do I have to do it all? Is HE seeing all of this too?" You can't do that. You have to be more mature and be able to look past things that have happened. If you blame him all the time and hold resentment then he can't ever reach out to you, and he will have to behave how you believe him to be. He is not necessarily "learning" by your actions. If he is your twin (and if your situation is anything like mine) then this is not about them "learning." It is them being forced to be what we think they are. You write the script and he acts it out. That's what I've seen. I have no idea how they behave with other people. I just know that with US, their "divine counterparts," they have to reflect back to us what we are thinking. Just the fact that you came onto this blog and wrote, "He has acted very self-destructively" means that now he could actually show you that he is being even more self-destructive because you wrote it out, you asked for it, and you will get what you ask for. I hope that makes sense. Use your power for good and start telling the universe that this man is whole, strong, mature, healthy, etc. instead of saying the opposite. I wish you well.
DeleteHey so im a little behind the times o. This post but i came across it and had a question concerning my TF. He is the runner. Hes run a few times not for long though as i kind of refused to let him- i.e. showing up to his house knowing all his feelings of confusion would go away and we would be fine. Now though due to life, he is in florida. Things have been wonderful with us then all of a sudden the running comes again. I do not take it well and realize its probably due to abandoment issues from childhood. Anyway, in this you say that you take the being ignored as a way for yourself to heal... I agree and see how that could work greatly for me but knowing him, i fear that if i just accept it, let him know that ill be here when hes ready to speak again... That hes going to feel like i dont care anymore, since ive never reacted that way before, then he will just stay gone. I know evemtually he would return but i don't want to make him feel for even a minute that i dont feel as strongly as i do. He has some understanding of twin flame union but not how i do...sooooo my question is do you think its okay to explain to him that when he runs or shuts down or feels like there's no hope for us, that im taking it as a healing lesson and it doesnt mean i dont care or feel any different? Or do you think it will interrupt the healing in any way?
ReplyDeleteI accidentally deleted my reply. I always think it is fine to share your love with him. As long as you are only letting him know that you always love him and want him then I think that's cool. Anything more like trying to tell him how to change or shoving twin flame stuff at him I don't advise but definitely showing him love, to me, seems fine!
DeleteDayyyummnnn This hit the spot. A it of a backstory, I have felt drawn to this man for three months now. We went in strong and it was an instant connection. Then the dancing began. I had no idea what my feelings were but you nailed it. It wasn't until this week that the concept of twin souls brought light into reasoning for this connection. My exact words recently - My ego is bruised. My second train of thought - I'm hurt. I won't answer him anymore. But my gut though - Be kind, loving, and you. Do not let these actions drive your reactions. Do not play games. Needless to say I have been on a healing journey with this person. They withhold all their thoughts about me, but reach out just to connect and hang out. We were intimate only once, but there was a difference in our connection opposed to the typical hook-up. Since then, we have had sporadic moments of contact where I notice it gives just enough time to challenge each other, and then BOOM, I have healed from a past trauma I was holding onto. Of course because of societal reasoning, I don't want to give in to thinking there is meaning behind this connection. I wonder if this was just a temporary bond. But my gut keeps whispering that there is a stronger soul tie, which is always harder to accept than letting someone go.
ReplyDeleteSo thank you for being a good virtual friend and knocking some sense into me. Sometimes you need a strong person to kick you in the butt and help you get past your ego. You are that :)
I am glad my blog has helped you. I wish you the best!
DeleteThank you for your blog. Very informative. I met my TF about a year ago. We both felt the connection instantly. He was actually with another partner until just recently. The past year has not been easy. So many emotions and ups and downs. About a week ago when things were actually going well, I blew up for no reason really and stormed out of his house. I think I let too many negative thoughts cloud the big picture. Bottom line he will not respond to my texts or calls. I'm trying to just be positive and build on that. I still feel him and know he will come back eventually.
ReplyDeleteBest to you :) I hope it changes soon!
DeleteI reconnected with the woman who I believe to be my TF after 24 years. We remained in a cross-country LDR for 8.5 years. It was magical. She ran a few times, but came back. She left again just over two months ago and told me she met someone “very special” and put photos of the two of them all over Facebook saying she “couldn’t be happier.” This woman was crazy mad about me and the connection is undeniable. I have not been contacting her. She will like an occasional FB photo of my sons, but I do not go to her page. Of course, I want to reunite. Should Ivreach our tobher or continue to giver her space? Thank you.
ReplyDeleteAfter briefly dating in college, I reconnected with the Woman who I believe to be my twin flame after 24 years of separation. We were together for 8 1/2 years in a cross country long-distance relationship. It was magical. She ran a few times, but always came back however, she left me again just over two months ago. The connection we shared was amazing and she knows it. This time, she’s in a new relationship. She said she met someone “very special “and put photos of the two of them up all over Facebook. The photos are virtually identical to the photos of the two of us that she posted for many years. She said that she hopes this gave me closure. Of course, I want to reunite with her. I have not been contacting her. She likes an occasional Facebook photo of my sons, but I don’t respond since it is not seeking a response and I do not go to her Facebook page. . Should I continue to just give her complete space and not contact Carson she is in a new relationship or should I try to contact her in some way? Thank you.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I have stopped posting to FB for awhile because her random “likes” set me back. Is that okay?
ReplyDeleteThere are just tooooo many games and tooooo much drama with this 'Twin Flame' nonsense, I honestly wish I never met mine.
ReplyDeleteI never cared about 'the one' or any of that nonsense most females care about so meeting him was not something I ever wanted. And since then it's been so dramatic and such a nuisance and such an utter waste of time and energy.
We ARE here in 3D so if someone is ignoring me, here in 3D, I will respond by doing the same.
I am so tired of the men getting this free pass since they 'can't deal with it' or 'are overwhelmed by it', total cop out bs. Ever think maybe these guys are just jerks? Are people really that immature and selfish?
Apparently they are, as my twin flame is a very immature and selfish person and if I had never met him I may actually be better off mentally and emotionally.
I am 37 so I have been around the block, been in love, been in a decade long relationship and this 'twin flame' nonsense has been nothing but draining. Most of the time I don't think twins are good together in 3D, too much bs, too much baggage for anything long term, just tooo many games.
That's all I think this Twin Flame stuff is....a big game.
You all can have it. I'll take peace of mind/a 'normal' relationship any day over this....nonsense.
And no I am not bitter, I am just sick of seeing the same stories over and over of women being treated like garbage by their 'twin flame' I would love to see how many of these people actually end up together, here in 3D where it counts. I would venture to say, very few.
And it's no coincidence that no men have boards like this, talking about this...these men in some way just don't care. Yet here the women are, still caring, while he is out with his friends or watching sports or doing anything but caring about being a 'twin flame'.
Just a big game.
Hello. Yes I understand how it can feel like a "big game." At this point in my life I do feel like I am responsible for my own happiness and I am with someone new who is available and able to treat me well and love me in the "here and now." BUT- and let me make sure I clarify this strongly- I do NOT blame my twin soul for not being with me. I don't feel like he was playing games, and as my blog has stated many times in the past I never felt like he was overwhelmed or "couldn't handle it" or any of that stuff that most twin flame websites express. I think all that is bullshit. I DO feel that twins who carry the "masculine" energy (normally the male twins) are used to reflect the inner hidden shadows, bad thoughts, shitty emotions, fearful beliefs, ego and anger issues, manipulating tendencies, etc. etc. etc. of the one who hold the female energy. It's not a well-understood process, and it definitely is not a well-believed concept. From what I have experienced throughout my journey an individual who thinks things like "My twin flame is a very immature and selfish person" will not get to reunion (so you don't have to worry about being with him because you never will with a non-loving energy) because energetically you will repel him. The repelling is what feels like a game. Then add in the millions of sob stories online and everyone thinking they've met their twin and yes- it all feels like a bunch of bullshit. It is easy to feel bitter. It is easy to feel like all these women are allowing themselves to be abused. But...
DeleteBut if they truly are bound and forced to mirror us, and if one of the primary ways this happens is by them staying silent, completing overlooking responding to us, then I can understand why so many male twin flames stay silent and so many female twin flames are out here... on boards and such. Honestly I feel in my heart the males are like "shut off" or something by our own energy and they will stay that way until we females understand what they are to us, lessons not only romantic interests. This is not fluffy bunny high school bullshit. This is a divine process and it is ass-kicking, not for the weak, and for those who are stuck in fearful angry ego it is HELLISH because the reflection back to you of your energy from your male twin is HELLISH. It feels like you've been thrust into the depths of Hell when your male twin is forced to bounce your shit energy back at you. Take it from one who knows. The majority of female twins out there are screaming and crying and blaming their male twins- with that energy being the main energy out there right now very very few twins will reunite. And the one who say they do so easily- they are not twins. The ones who get the weird messages, cold shoulder, a loving kind person suddenly becomes your worst nightmare and it's so strange that you can't even fully believe it, and he keeps popping up especially when you have a moment of thinking nicely or feeling at peace or writing something loving about him... that is a twin. It is not NONSENSE. The entire process is to show us how to live (and manifest) from a place of love and kindness. It is to silence our screaming egos and show us how to live from soul, and by GOD it's a challenging process. I honestly feel empathy for all of us going through it, you included. I wish you the best.
DeleteThis was exactly what I needed to hear to shift in a profound way. I get to where I feel good then he contacts then although I respond and respond lovingly it triggers the hell out of me. Can you tell me
ReplyDeleteHow to not let his contact or even his pictures trigger me?
Nice piece, Rose. I've read lots of Twin Flame stuff but never something that articulates this dynamic. I'm the chaser and fully guilty of petty ego games to give a "taste of their own medicine". And as you say, hoorah, I successfully stretched the game out for a very long time!
ReplyDeleteOk.ok..is a love story fairy tale ..the one i being dream about..the one i be waiting to meet..my prince charm.my kind men.my friend..the person who can i talk forever.....Fuckk just.TALK is that simple no fucking games..lets talk businnes.)
ReplyDeleteTalk...come on ...lets do business ..
ReplyDeleteStop fucking mental games waste of time .because all can happend and one single day ..you can die..fall in love..come on time is precious!!!!
I have been going through this for some time now with my twin flame. He suffers from anxiety and depression and has always made comments about how he thinks I'm too good for him. He keeps pushing and pulling. Tells me that I am the love of his life, but he's tired of hurting me and pulls away. I enjoyed the article, but mostly the comments. I have been very hurt and in the past couple of weeks I have been letting him know just how much he has hurt me, to the point where he is crying because it hurts him so bad and he doesn't know what to do. He says he knows he messed up and wished he never hurt me and that things never got this out of control, and I wish the same. Reading the comments however has helped me to realize that I need to let go of these negative thoughts about him and try and be more positive towards him. I honestly feel like he is not trying to hurt me, but he is very lost and confused.
ReplyDeletei’m in the same mood tonight! just fierce! i love it!! you should’ve wrote PERIOD at the end !!
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