Thursday, May 8, 2014

Purpose of The Silence




*For anyone who may stumble across this I am editing it as of 5-13-2015.  Most of what I wrote here last year still applies today except for one part.  I used to think that my twin soul was showing me that I need to be a "writer" or an author.  I used to think I was being pointed to writing for the sake of achieving some sort of destiny as a published author.  I no longer believe that.  What I now believe is that the act of writing, the act of writing goodness and belief and love, shifts vibration from fear to love and from doubt to belief.  Clearing away fear and doubt is one thing that leads to reunion.  THIS is why I was told all the time to write write write.  NOT so I could achieve some sort of destiny as a writer.  It's not all about "achieving" when it comes to The Divine.  It is more about energy and joy.  Also I no longer feel that reunited twins all have some "divine mission" on earth that consists of working together to achieve something specific like being a guide or teacher or what have you.  I feel the mission is simply to make it through all of the personal fears and obstacles that separate us from our twin souls while always always believing in love and truth as much as we can, and once we finally make it to reunion then the "mission" is simply to be love together.  A reflection of divine love on earth.  It's very simple really- mainly it all has to do with overcoming fear, healing and believing in love.  Being love.**

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I know The Silence hurts but there is a purpose behind it, and that is really the main focus of my blog- to explain how The Divine uses that twin soul separation silence, the "running," as an instrument of healing on many levels.  It feels like "ignoring" doesn't it?  And no one likes to be ignored.  I know when Joron first went quiet it nearly killed me.  Later I will explain my circumstances to show you a pattern but for now I want to talk a bit about the silence keeping in mind I am sharing my twin soul journey and what has been explained to me by Spirit through my spiritual guidance which is the voice of my soul: my soul speaks to me and I listen {and sometimes try to obey- I can be willful even when I don't really want to be.}  I do understand that each of our journeys are unique but I've noticed through people I've spoken with that there does seem to be a "pattern" that is followed when it comes to a twin soul union.  Below are some points I want to highlight but the most important point I want to make is this: your twin soul is in your life to heal you so you can be whole because you have a larger purpose on earth, a mission.  Your twin soul is a very important treasure who should be cherished not attacked. If early on in the separation a knowing and understanding of what is REALLY happening can be found, if peace and quiet can be accepted with minimal chasing and chaos, then "The Dance" can be easier, shorter, and the purpose behind the separation can be known sooner.  Basically you can avoid crashing and burning the relationship and instead allow The Divine to do its work without fighting {too much!} against your Fate and Destiny.
  • First thing first about the silence: it is not by choice.  Read that again and try to understand what I am going to share here.  Somehow, and I don't fully understand it, they, the runner, are not choosing to ignore.  Instead soul works through them to keep them quiet, and don't tell me you can't see this happening.  I hear more and more often how the runner says "I was going to contact you but it's like something wouldn't let me."  My Joron doesn't really want to ignore me but as one who has twin soul energy he is an old soul, a strong soul, and that old strong soul that resides inside of him is telling him to stay silent towards me.  Yes I know all about free will, and I know how strange this sounds, and believe me even I still battle with it from time to time because no one likes feeling rejected but I've been shown that this is truth and my soul has told me from the beginning that the silence is for a purpose, and it is not by choice.  I am told that he is "Gone for Healing."  They get "shut off."  The love is still there but it is quieted and the desire, longing and ache is "turned down" in volume so to speak and it's like we get moved to the back of their minds while the rest of life takes over for them.  It's a little painful to think about I know... but I see it happen in my union with Joron and, at least for me, it explains the runner dynamic a little deeper than what I've read on most twin soul websites. 
  • The silence first starts working by quieting the ego.  Their emotions are lowered and ours are left on so we can feel the intensity of the pain.  Why?  Because pain can be healing, sometimes suffering is the only spiritual teacher a person has available to her.  When you finally feel enough pain to where you actually need God then your ego will start to quiet.  When your ego finally quiets then you will begin to heal and in the healing there is peace {killed ego} and that peace allows you to "hear" your soul or see signs and synchronicity around you which are all messages from Spirit trying to lead you in the right direction.  When they leave and go silent it's an eerie void of communication.  A vacuum.  Joron went from being in constant communication with me to disappearing pretty much overnight.  It's not normal and after talking with other twin soul stayers I see there is a total pattern to the behaviour of a runner, and it's not a coincidence.  
  • The healing process will take an undetermined amount of time and it's different for everyone.  The more you accept the truth of The Process and see this as a personal soul quest of healing instead of wallowing in the pain of "he left me" the sooner the pain will end.  Remember: pain is inevitable but suffering is a choice.  If you would like more information on the emotional pain body and how to quiet it then please refer to Mel and Nicole of Gold Ray Twin Flames.  Mel tells it like it is.  There IS pain, and there is healing to be done but you have to get through it so you can get further on your twin soul journey.  Joron's silence was used as a catalyst for my final healing.  It started a process that pushed tons of crusty old fear and pain out of me.  It's like the pain I felt over the loss of my love became an opening in my soul, an escape valve, that allowed allllll the old shit to come pouring out.  The pain I felt being purged from my insides was not only over the loss of my twin flame- losing him, his silence and the pain it caused me, was a catalyst to allow years of pain and suffering to be released from me and healed.  This is why it hurts so bad.  And it is necessary to cleanse us of the past, to heal us and make us whole.  They will go silent in order to play their role in the start of a mission together, and it is of The Divine. 
  • As part of healing process the mirroring becomes very evident and it is used to make us face fears and see aspects about ourselves that need to be healed.  In my experience what happened is my twin reached out to me in the beginning after our separation, and often the contact was cold.  Aloof.  Totally completely opposite the man I knew and loved; I swear to God it was like an alien took over his body!  Invasion of The Body Snatchers- he became someone else for a little while.  HE MIRRORED MY FEARS and was overcome with fear himself so all he showed me was fear, mine and his own.  He became my biggest fears: that no one could stay in love with me.  I was terrified even before he shut off from me that I'd lose him, that he would stop loving me, and lo and behold: he did!  He felt my fear.  This escalated after he ran.  He'd send me short messages that completely mirrored my fears about him.  If I was scared that he was choosing his career over me then he'd send me a message saying, "Sorry I didn't answer all week but I was busy with work.  I'm sure you don't want a guy who pushes everything off for his science but that's me and I don't think I can change."  Keep in mind this is coming from a man who told me he loved being in a relationship, loved being in love, and couldn't wait to hear from me, loved being in communication with me and wanted to marry me.  Listen closely as I write this because it is very important to The Process that you understand: it's SOUL speaking through them in order to hit us with our biggest fears so we will notice them and face them down.  This is a very intricate process, a "Divine Formula" if you will, that God uses to force us to face our fears and heal.  I do believe the "mirroring" is all soul-based, soul-orchestrated so when we are told that mirroring means we are exchanging energy back and forth- it's very true, and it is soul energy.  Whatever you fear, whatever your issues are, soul will feed them back to you using your twin soul as a channel until you finally face those fears and show them down.
  • Vices, bad habits, addictions- these will all need to be faced and healed while in a twin soul separation, it's all part of the purpose of healing.  I was shown the reality of ENERGY through knowing my twin soul and how this worked was through the "telepathy."  My guidance spoke to me often of the importance of my energetic vibration, that I need to be joyful and light, vibrating high, in order to heal.  Engaging in vices such as drinking or smoking lowers the energetic vibration.  Often I felt icky and low and I would turn to my vices as a crutch, the number one being drinking, and it just made me feel worse.  Well let me tell you... Spirit showed me very quickly that when I drink it totally derails the connection with my twin soul because it messes with my energy; my energy plummets and I'm left feeling morose and despondent.  In order to "heal" me of wanting to turn to alcohol as an escape I was shown how tightly connected I am to my twin soul, and how he "feel" me.  Soul made sure of it.  When I drink I feel low, fearful and miserable and that energy is transferred directly to my twin who then responds to me, normally via email, in kind with some cold, aloof and fearful message.  He is never mean but when I do something in my world, from 2100 miles away, that is harmful to me and my energy whether it be getting stuck in a place of fear and worry for too long or caving to getting drunk I don't have to say a word to my twin soul for him to send me a brief cold message that completely reflects my state-of-being.  Once I noticed this, saw The Pattern, and quit all my vices that mirroring of my negative energy from him stopped unless I allow myself to wallow in fear- then he may reflect my fear.  All of this was shown to me very blatantly through our sporadic communication which I will explain later. 
  • On the opposite end of that spectrum are good habits, living life joyfully, raising vibration from low and fearful to high, loving and joyful.  What I found and was shown is that after a period of silence when I started to heal I would finally find some peace.  I listened to my guidance repeat over and over that my twin soul was NOT choosing to ignore me but was listening to his soul guide him through this healing process.  Once I found peace I then began to find quiet and inspiration to actually live again began to creep in.  Again this is important so pay attention: I'd do something "good" and healthy and joyful, something pointing me towards my Destiny, and BAM he'd contact me almost immediately and it would be a loving warm message.  At first I didn't notice the pattern but later it became impossible to ignore: when I believed, and especially when I did something concerning my writing, my twin soul reached out to me.  It is and was no coincidence and it is an important part of The Process that you need to pay attention to.  Their communication that is mixed into the healing silence, "The Dance," has a very finely orchestrated PURPOSE.  It is not random!!!  Pay attention.  Learn from me.  Don't allow yourself to get derailed every single time you hear from your twin.  Instead take a deep breath and a step back and figure out what you are being shown in the contact because soul is trying so so so hard, through your twin soul, to show you something.  To guide you.  To point you in the right direction.  Maybe in a moment of inspiration and love for your twin soul you jotted down a song lyric that grew into a verse and five minutes later your twin pops you one of those, "I was just thinking about you" messages.  Well my friend- that is a clear indication that you were doing something right in writing out that song lyric so pay attention...  and keep doing what you were doing that inspired the communication in the first place because whatever it is will bring you closer to your Destiny.
So to summarize: do something low energy and icky and the result, the contact from your twin soul, won't be pretty or you won't get any contact at all.  Do something high-vibration and joyful and the contact will be warm and reaffirming.  It's all part of The Process, and this is key: without the silence none of it would be possible.  It is that silence we all hate, the runner "ignoring," that propels us through this healing process.  You can dislike it if you want to but one thing is very necessary throughout the process and it is this: NEVER EVER HATE YOUR TWIN SOUL for helping to heal you through silence.  Have unconditional love for your twin for showing you the way and being a light in your darkness.  Your twin soul is sacrificing for you in order to help heal you- and your twin needs your love to heal as well.  This is all a big "Circle of Healing" where the silence forces us to turn inwards, just like the Goddess Psyche had to when Eros left her, so we can fulfill our soul quests of healing.  As we heal we need to be loving inside our hearts to our twins- and that love is sent to them via soul.  Unconditional love for ourselves, our twins and eventually everyone else is key in these unions.  Don't forget the unconditional love.  Stop the crazy chasing.  STOP pointing the finger at your twin soul and stop trying to figure our what is wrong with him {or her- I am not trying to stereotype here, just going with my own experience.}  Your twin's journey is none of your business.  Only your own healing and inner quest should be your priority.  Just love your twin soul with a strong unconditional love, an affection without limits, while you pay attention to what your soul is trying to show you through the silence.     

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  1. Thanks again Rose, best summary I've read so far of this phenomenon. But it's so hard not to be hateful sometimes(the TS, oneself, God...). So hard not to think "Shit I didn't want this madness, I don't really need it this healing and pain and this "freak show" of fears in my life". And the "larger purpose" is rarely clear, sometimes it seems like we have to fight a battle for which we don't even know what the benefit is... OK, I stop whining, just the effect of having entered running mode I guess... and I know she won't chase me ) ; , she said it and she's right by the way...

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  2. Spot on! It is so detailed and perfectly tailored to everyone!! Thank you Rose for such deep insights. It really gives me a deeper understanding of the 'dance' and purpose of silence. :) Love and gratitude your way angel <3

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  3. This is just what I needed to hear. This process is extremely difficult but when you have the right knowledge behind it, the pain eases and the path looks a lot clearer. Thank you so much :-)

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  4. Your knowledge is very unique and helps unlock the key for others so thank you still for helping us out.

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  5. I do want to say that your twins soul is your business, because you are both going through this and the more we learn about each other and our souls the better and wiser we are to help explain many things to others in need. I know everything about my twins soul and it is not by choice. One of us will always be more aware in the process of awakening, and with that awareness we are able to see what the other may need help with. I know many times I have known when he was in pain or very sick and all he wanted was me, but I knew if I projected my spirit to him this would comfort him. I can always pick up want his soul needs as I know he can see what mine is saying even if it was confusing to him as times. We are all teachers of this experience and I thank you for sharing yours.

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  6. Gosh all these comments that I have missed! I'm not getting notification but today I checked my comments list and see all of them. I am so glad to know my words are helping others through their journey. It is a pick me up at a time that has become a bit of a challenge for me. Thank you! Blessings to all.

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  7. I am currently going through the separation phase and I am the chaser (but has stopped chasing) and am trying to figure out ways to "Release" this unwanted energy. I love him deeply and dearly and this hurts like hell. He blocked me from Facebook so I have no contact. I'm a firm believer in God no doubt. So I do believe I am more aware of this than him...I see his birthday everywhere....I just don't know how to decipher such message when he blocked me of communication. .please...anyone...enlighten me

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    1. I know it's painful Bre'Yonka. He blocks you on FB because this is a standard typical action that a twin flame/twin soul does. They block communication and it forces us to go inner and turn to the truth inside ourselves instead of relying on 3D contact like texting, emails or FB. The blocking is not of human intent. It is not of 3D. It is from the divine, and no it does not feel good but it is a part of the process you cannot control externally. You can only go inner and figure it out. And I am no pro- I am still working on this myself. Releasing the extra energy... I would not call it "unwanted" but instead extra. An extra energy that you are feeling all blocked up inside of you {I still have this too even after all my preaching on my blog lol.} I'm told {from above and from signs around me} to write it out, write love, write progress. You can write your life but try not to do it from "victim energy." Realize the lessons you are learning. Realize the things your twin is trying to show you about yourself. You are not a "chaser." Don't buy into the labels. He is not "running" from you. Instead he is playing the role he promised you he'd play before you got here on earth. He HAD to go quiet in order to help heal you, and that's just the way it is. How you accept it or deal with it is on you but always remember that YOU create your own reality based on your beliefs and your intention. Our twins are forcing us to own our truth- what is your truth? Not fear or doubt but truth. Best wishes to you!!

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    2. And one more thing. Before I went and fell hard into fear I used to be able to energetically get my twin soul to come forth. I didn't realize back then what I was doing but each time I truly believed in the union, truly trusted him, truly "felt" his love again, he'd come through to me. I still firmly believe, although it can be difficult to achieve, then when we absolutely believe the truth which is our twin souls do love us fully and never mean to hurt us then they can come forth. But we have to know our own worth, we have to love ourselves, before we can believe that someone else could love us fully. But my point is- try to hold in your heart the truth that he does love you but this is all of the divine now so nothing you try to do in 3D will fix it. If he is not meant to contact you then he will not do so, no matter if you were to beg or plead or anything like that, not saying you would but believe me I've done EVERYTHING to try to get my twin to contact me or respond to me and it just will not happen if my energy is not in the right place.

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    3. Rose, my name is also Rose and through many attempts to research what is currently going on in my life, I have came across your article. I hope you get this even though your post is from last year. I am very confused and seeking guidance. I am currently being "ignored."

      Last night, I read on an article the following.

      "Soul mate relationships are sisimilar to twin flame unions in that partners are able to deeply connect on a soul level. However, the key difference between them is that the twin flame relationship is built upon unconditional love, which means that there is no game playing or drama in their relationship.

      Twin flame unions do face tests and challenges in their relationship, however the twins approach these problems with open hearts and constructive mindsets. Twins do not use problems as a means to manipulate and control each other.

      If there is any kind of power-play for control in your relationship, then you are not in a twin flame union."

      How do I understand the difference between what you advise and what they advise? I'm very hurt and trying to figure out what I need to do to stay on my path. Please help me.

      Rose

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    4. Hi Rose. First of all I am so sorry that you are hurting. You feel you have a twin soul, correct? The "quiet" that comes in a twin soul union is not a power-play for control. It is energetic and if you really do have a twin soul who has fell silent then it is because he is reflecting back to you your doubts and disbelief about love, about yourself, about him, about his character, and about how he thinks and feels about you. But the silence is never manipulation or a power play. It is of soul. The best thing you can do if you are in the "silence" mode is try your hardest to know it is not his desire or intention to hurt you or "ignore" you. You are not being "ignored" or disregarded. It is not because he does not think you matter enough to contact you. Believe me, if he is REALLY your twin soul then he is reflecting back to you thoughts and energy that need to change. It would be great if all twin flames/souls could work "together" here in earth, hand in hand, but it does not work that way. Some of us are physically separated and there is no contact at first, or for a while. The silence is not game playing or drama. And there is unconditional love behind it. I really don't know how to advise you. If you have a question please let me know. Best thing you can do is love yourself, know you are worthy of this man's love, and know he loves you, and is he truly is your twin soul then know he is a good man with a good heart and soul who is here in your life right now to force you to change your thoughts, intentions, etc. Because if this is your twin soul then YOU are creating this situation through even just your thoughts alone.

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    5. Wow, very powerful. Thank you for your reply. We did have a "situation " last Sunday where he didn't come to my first half marathon because he was out with his friends the night before. He tried to call and text me all day last Sunday and I was so upset I needed time. He eventually asked me to at least speak to him so even though I didn't want to because I was still too upset, I called him since he asked. The conversation was painful. He was trying to apologize and say he wants a future with me and that he loves me etc, and I just kept shooting him down . Saying that I don't mean s*** to him, that he doesn't love me that I'm not important to him if he couldn't be there etc. It was all words of hurt. Then after the call I told him not to call or text me anymore... all this out of anger when I simply should have said I'll call you tomorrow to talk. Well, now HE won't talk to me and was ignoring me. Finally got him to respond yesterday after I reached out with apologies and kindness but he just keeps saying that we are done and I need to move on and that the relationship is over. I can tell he is still really upset and angry. He won't let me fix this. We both did wrong but now I feel like it's all my fault. I told him I didn't mean those things that I know he loves me I know he wants a life with me etc but it seems like it's too little too late. Have you had anyone ask about what to do in my shoes? As of now I'm just giving him space and realizing what I did wrong and how to fix my problem of getting angry. What else can I do? I just wanted him to speak with me but he is DONE.

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    6. Maybe give it some time and see if he will talk to you in a while. Tell his soul you didn't mean it when you said not to call or text. And take some time to work on your reactivity. I understand he upset you but if he otherwise is a good guy then your words were from a place of your own hurt, even beyond him not showing up . I see why you were upset but still you must watch your energy, words and intention. Work on yourself. Give it some times and I wish you the best.

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  8. "Most of what I wrote here last year still applies today except for one part. I used to think that my twin soul was showing me that I need to be a "writer" or an author. I used to think I was being pointed to writing for the sake of achieving some sort of destiny as a published author. I no longer believe that. What I now believe is that the act of writing, the act of writing goodness and belief and love, shifts vibration from fear to love and from doubt to belief. Clearing away fear and doubt is one thing that leads to reunion. THIS is why I was told all the time to write write write. NOT so I could achieve some sort of destiny as a writer. It's not all about "achieving" when it comes to The Divine. It is more about energy and joy. Also I no longer feel that reunited twins all have some "divine mission" on earth that consists of working together to achieve something specific like being a guide or teacher or what have you. I feel the mission is simply to make it through all of the personal fears and obstacles that separate us from our twin souls while always always believing in love and truth as much as we can, and once we finally make it to reunion then the "mission" is simply to be love together. A reflection of divine love on earth. It's very simple really- mainly it all has to do with overcoming fear, healing and believing in love. Being love."
    *Your words here are my feelings EXACTLY. Thank you so very much. Sending you & your Beloved Twin Lots of Love & wishing you a Sweet & Powerful & Passionate Reunion!*
    As Always, Laura Geralyn Kline-Etheridge

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  9. Thank you Laura, and same to you! I'm glad my updated "addendum" to my prior thoughts and insight resonates with you! Hugs :)

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  10. Rose,

    You're not alone. My twin occupies 90% of my mind through daily activities. He won't talk to me unless it's business. So frustrating. Thanks SO much for sharing this though, I have gained clarity and feel less indecisive!

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  12. Hello! I am happy that you have updated this article and have found a deeper insight to your purpose with your twin. It is very lovely! I really liked when you said: "I feel the mission is simply to make it through all of the personal fears and obstacles that separate us from our twin souls while always always believing in love and truth as much as we can, and once we finally make it to reunion then the "mission" is simply to be love together."

    It is so beautifully put. You are standing in your Light. :) You are being who you really are.
    Love and light to you! <3

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  13. Oh thank you Toshwant :) Yes I do feel like my twin soul mission is all to do with love. Healing and love. As I explained in the update to the post, the reason why I was always guided to "write a book" is because it put me in the proper mindset to shift my energy. At times I was able to do this, and at times not. I'm still working on it, and I still do a lot of writing. Writing is clearing for me when I concentrate on the energy of love. It is my form of meditation and positive intention, writing out my loving memories of my time spent with James.

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  14. Thank you Rose for sharing. I am feeling better now about "feeling ignored and unloved."

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  15. Lyn, you are welcome. Big hugs to you and please don't feel unloved or unwanted or ignored!! With these people who are forced to mirror us like twin do- I know they don't "want" to do it. They have to show us our fears. So stand strong in your knowing of love.

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  16. Thanks Rose for taking the time to respond. Much appreciated. Blessings to you.

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  17. Glad I stumbled across this article - I was having a difficult time with the "silence" until I remembered that soul growth and healing are needed for me and my TF to reunite. We've been doing the back and forth/push pull dance for several months now (which I know isn't too bad at all) but I remember he is always with me. I feel his energy all the time, especially before I go to sleep. Anyway, thanks again for publishing this article. Really helped me out and remember my heart's truth.

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  18. I am glad it helped you! Thanks for the kind words.

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  20. Wow Rose, thank you! This makes perfect sense, that's what I'm going through now. He's giving me the could shoulder, no contact at all, not even on my birthday. Sometimes I question myself what have I done for him to cut me off as if I never existed. However I do dream of him and the dreams are sooo REAL. I believe that God will reunite us when timing is right!

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    1. I'm glad this resonates with you. I believe more and more people are going through this right now as we are fast-tracking through our Awakenings. This is what twin souls do for us. A few tips if you do not mind me sharing what I've learned. 1) do not worry about his journey or what he's doing or what his lessons are. If you worry about what is his "problem" then this worry will slow you down. Please only concentrate on yourself and LOVE him. 2) Please read this article. It offers great info about waiting for God to reunite you. That is a lovely thought but not good for twin souls. You must change your thinking about "divine timing" and I love this woman's advice because it is the best and most truthful that I have found {through thousands of twin soul sites.} http://www.twinflames1111.com/blog/q-a/5-most-damaging-twin-flame-myths/

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    2. This woman, Cassady, explains that "waiting" is not a good energy. We need to actively manifest reunion ourselves using our God-given manifestation energy. This means get a journal and start writing ONLY goodness, only love. Write the good memories about your twin. Only concentrate on what you love and what you want. She explains it on her blog so it would do you well to read through it. There is loads of bullshit out there about twin souls. Go inner. Love yourself and your twin soul. Make intentions, manifest, write as meditation, and banish all doubt, fear and bad thoughts because those thoughts create your twin's behavior towards you. Believe what I share and you will move forward more quickly. If this man is your twin there is ONLY love and a shared destiny between the two of you but YOU must unlock it and allow it to you through your belief in him and his love for you, and your belief that you are loveable and worthy of true love, worthy of someone loving you. Best wishes to you!

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    3. I'm having a really hard time. One minute I feel empowered the next I'm down. I was and still am a very spiritual person but it gets tough. Do you mind if we communicate. Maybe you can uplift me, encourage me on my own journey. Your blog came up randomly & I promise it's like your situation is me & my twin word for word. mizzjnae@gmail.com

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    4. Hello! I'm sorry you are having a hard time. I'm sorry though. I'm no longer emailing one on one about my journey. I'm focusing on his love for me not on what's happened that causes pain. Only the loving good times are real. Only the loving good man is real so keep your focus there. Huge tip: focus on what you want, what you love. Not on what you do not want. Look up Cassady Cayne. She's very good!! Read more of my blog. I know what I've been through is real. Love yourself. Love him and trust in his love for you. But I'm sorry I need to focus on my energy right now but I wish you the best of luck. Just focus on love!!! He does love you. If he's your twin he does love you, even now.

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  21. Does your twin know that he is your twin? i.e. does he know about this blog and that you talk about him on it? I've been itching to share my twin flame experience but I've had mixed feelings about it. It feel inspired to do it but my twin is currently in silence/total shut down mode but he very well could still be reading my blog and he will know it's him I'm talking about. He is not very spiritual and would probably find the idea of a twin flame stupid. I was still emailing him angry/pleading emails until just before Christmas, even though I knew I shouldn't, and I'm anxious to not do anything further that will prolong our separation any longer than it needs to be.

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    1. I know this will sound strange but if this man is your twin soul he will only show you what he's meant to or can based on your energy. Whether or not he admits to knowing he's your twin means nothing. They know more than we realize because it's all of the divine. Yes, most people don't know this but he knows of my blog. He's known in 3D since August but they know everything always whether or not we tell them. Be confident. Believe in the love he's shown you so it can be shown to you. Don't focus on the silence and what's he's done "bad" because then you make that more real. Instead empower the good stuff :)

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  23. Hi, this makes so much sense. My twin flame comes into my life and acts like he is unable to get enough of me then suddenly totally ignores me. Yesterday was the worse and I felt how can he totally shut me out like that? I started crying alot recently, and even though he has been ignoring me and not talking me, I have been messaging him. When he read my messages, I felt such complete utter pain and desolation and I try not to message him. Last night was the worse and he still ignores me and I keep asking myself, how can a person who wants me to much....totally be the opposite. This makes sense now.

    Also, I never wanted to drink and now I want to drink- I feel i need to drink and do these things one more time. I never liked alcohol but I feel a pull towards these vices. Does tha tmake sense?

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    1. Hugs to you. Well if you really believe he is TF and you have signs that he is then please understand he does this as a reflection of your energy. If you have ANY fear or doubt when you are back together, like when he can't get enough of you, then he will show you your doubt by pulling away from you. Sweetheart it's like this, if you are worried "What if he does not love me?" then this poor guy has to actually show you what it would feel like for him to not love you which means silence and ignoring you. I know it's hard to understand. The BEST thing you can do is stop messaging him for now. Not forever but just for now. Get a notebook and write out all things he's done to show you he loves you. Focus only on the love he's shown you and pay no attention to how he does not respond to you. Believe in his love, believe in him, and believe you are loveable. If he is your TF then he will always reflect how you are feeling inside.

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    2. Also, drinking is not the answer because it could make you feel even more sad and lonely and then EGO flares big time, and you need to control your ego, not let it control you. If you want a small glass of wine to relax then fine but try not to drink to avoid or to numb your pain. I know how that feels believe me. But when you drink you give your awareness away and it leaves you vulnerable to believing what I call "the nonsense." A TF never wants to hurt us. He's just forced to be your mirror at all times. Take a deep breath. Try to realize he does love you. This is from a whole different realm that the one you are familiar with, and you do have the believe in the unbelievable in order to get through it. Then do things to make you happy! You are going through a lot so treat yourself VERY WELL. Pamper yourself. Only stuff that is "of the light" like don't do drugs or drink a lot but heck go out for dinner with a friend or family or even alone. Enjoy some quiet time. Read a good book. Watch some good movie. Watch some comedy! Eat cake. Go for a walk in nature. Anything that pampers you and make you feel good, do those things. And always always believe YOU are worthy. And always believe in this man's goodness. Know when he shows you that he can't get enough of you, that is his TRUTH. Try to only focus on that truth!!! Because whatever you focus on is what you will bring more of into your life. Best wishes.

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  24. Dear Rose,

    I cannot tell you how much this means to me. I felt as if I have been stumbling so much and your answers provide clarity. Thank you for your words of advice. You are right - I had my doubts about him not being my TF, about him not loving me. I think I have been through the most part of it but patience is the hardest part and since I have read your blog, I have been focusing on the positive. A fear of me iS not wanting to mess up.
    I hope you will permit me to share this.
    The weird thing is I met this guy online and we have not been able to meet physical yet as he has been running. This week, I started to feel sad and depressed and I was wondering if this was my feelings or his. I also started feeling that he was interested in some one and I was crying. Yesterday I was able to confirm that my feelings were true and that he is down and he wanted to go out with a girl that turned him down.

    The hardest part of me, wanted to message him and let him know that I know these things but I can't. I don't know how he will feel about this as we have never been able to discuss this part of it as he has always been running and I think he still is. Like I want to tell him about it right away but he ignores me. This also confirmed alot of things for me. I am the aware one and he is in denial so I am unable to discuss this with him, but I so wanted to message him.
    I just want to say, I think you are doing a great job because so many of us are loss without these guidance. Thank you.

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  25. Beautiful explanation ever I have read in this topic.

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  26. Rose,

    You say "I no longer feel that reunited twins all have some "divine mission" on earth that consists of working together to achieve something specific like being a guide or teacher or what have you", and " I used to think I was being pointed to writing for the sake of achieving some sort of destiny as a published author. I no longer believe that." I would like to gently but firmly disagree with you; the writing you have done here made my path so clear, that it instantly moved me to a more loving, higher vibration instead of feeling so lost, abandoned, and quite frankly, insane. And the instant after that, I felt a huge chunk of the painful, oppressive wall that is my TF crumble. I can feel his beautiful, loving soul. It is real, there is no doubt. Thank you so much for posting this. I am bookmarking it on every electronic device I have so I have somewhere to come back and ground when I start to feel like this whole twin flame thing is too much. So, back to my original disagreement: this piece of "PUBLISHED WRITING" has moved me forward in my awakening. You documenting your journey to unconditional love has started a ripple effect. You have most definitely acted as a "GUIDE" to me, and I highly doubt I am the only one. It's almost as if you are fulfilling a "DIVINE MISSION" :) I go forward with the belief that I will some day be able to show someone else something about unconditional love, intentionally or otherwise, creating another ripple. And imagine the sea change possible from enough ripples :) Thank you, from the deepest place in my (and my TF's) soul :)

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    1. Thank you! You have no idea how much your kind words mean to me right now. Recently I was ready to take my blog offline because I've had some conflicting feelings inside about the blog, my journey, other people's opinions of what I share, etc. So THANK YOU... and I hope you don't mind if I reference this in my next blog post! Thanks so much and God bless you, your twin and all of us :)

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  27. Rose,

    I have to say I agree with lushnight. I share those exact sentiments. Sometimes when I am feeling down, I read your blogs as well and it makes me feel better. As i previously mentioned, you hit the nail on the head. My wall started to crumble as well when I started reading your blogs. Also, I let go of a lot of the ego and started loving my twin flame even more. Don't stop, you have been a guide to me as well. Thank you from both my twin flame and I.

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  28. Great, Great, Great post on the subject!!!!!
    Thank You!!!

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  29. This was just what I needed to read after a pretty fired up chase with my twin earlier today. I've been so wrapped up in my needs that I thought the silence was him punishing me. It's very true that they give you messages I'm trying to figure out some of the ones he gives but it's maddening at times. Thank you for your clarification on the subject!!

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    1. I think it is important to speak your truth in this. You should not be afraid of what your twin thinks about you because your twin actually loves you unconditionally. Yes I do believe they are aware even when they can't let on that they are aware. My guy is very strong in his energy. He's so psychic it blows me away sometimes. Only thing I don't agree with you here is my twin is already perfectly healed and awakened. That I am sure of. He is an angel. Best wishes on your blog and your path.

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  31. this is my story, exactly, so far...3 weeks of separation leading up to the silence which started 3 days ago. it hurt the worst for the first couple of days. it was actually a mutual decision, but i was doing more of the contacting/chasing up until the point we both knew we needed "silence" and at the same time we both realized it, of course, because we are twins lol. at first, in the first few weeks, it was tough because it was all about 'him' and what he needed to accomplish in his process, which is no secret, it is blatant through formal recovery. he is doing his '4th' step. i already did mine. we talk about his process, journey, path etc. so when it was all about him it was hard to accept why this was even happening. the other day i realized wait, i think this is actually about ME and the further healing and growth that *I* need. the 4th step is just a ruse, or excuse, for this to all happen. so after 3 days i finally don't feel the pain anymore and i am happy again but i absolutely miss him like crazy and think about him all the time. i also feel our connection non-stop. i said to a friend tonight that i think there has already been some grown and healing. so as it would be, timing being perfect and all (of course, because it is all a plan), i had planned two retreats at a holistic yoga & meditation center, back-to-back, a couple of months ago when we first started dating. i didn't realize the huge role it would play in what i would be going through, i just knew that i needed to plan them and go away for 8 days to these two retreats. the first is 4 days of kundalini, which is what started my awakening at this same retreat center just over a year ago. the second is a recovery/yoga/meditation retreat (which was also part of that same retreat i did that started my awakening over a year ago, but it was only 4 days). i have been to this retreat center many times (i always say it is a magical healing place) and have never gone for more than those 4 days last year. all divine timing. i will be deep into my healing, turned inward and totally focused on myself and my self-love. i really couldn't have planned it all any better. this stuff is real. he told me the other day in one of our last communications 'i wish it didn't have to be this way'. the last text i have from him before this weird complete silence was 'one day at a time'. perfect right?

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    1. Your words have brought tears to my eyes. Yes I see the external circumstances as a "ruse" and I am sure my twin also wished it did not have to be this way. You seem to have a good grasp on things, good for you. It is a different ache when you no longer feel ignored but you love them and miss them and want to talk to them so badly because you miss them. That is where I am. I just miss him so much and being apart is heartbreaking to me. But I am trying to take one day at a time like your twin told you. It's really all we can do while we address what needs to be addressed inside of ourselves. Best wishes to you!

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    2. thank you!! last night i told a mutual friend 'i am happy' when she asked how i was. i truly felt happy inside!! the silence was necessary. then this morning i told another mutual friend 'i actually don't want him to contact me right now the silence is good for me' because i know i have been healing. i felt really happy this morning, too, but still thinking about him. about an hour after i messaged my friend i got this from him: 'Hey, how are you? Just thinking of you and hope that you're doing well'. i didn't react or respond right away. i let it sit a bit. i cherished it. i chose my words wisely and my reaction wisely. i only sent him a couple of messages and he sent a bunch. it was nice to let him really be the one to talk after bombarding him with various emails and texts over the past few weeks! i actually started to cry a bit before I responded, about 45 min. it just felt really sweet and special to hear from him like that. i haven't continued contact today, just feeling really good that we had some contact and still really happy. i did feel this way about a week ago when he followed me home after a meeting on his motorcycle and we just chatted outside my house. it wasn't 'oh poor me we can't hang out i'm so sad he left' but it was 'wow that was really nice and i'm so happy i got some one-on-one time with him'. this is all helping me to not take him for granted and appreciate all the little things. but i definitely have felt the healing. it is no joke about when you work on yourself, your self-love, your happiness alone and heal they come back. just keep it up and keep doing what you are doing and things happen, i'm sure of it, and i am seeing it. it's crazy to be experiencing every single little detail i am reading about. i keep thinking 'is this real life? is this really happening?' the universe is a crazy thing and not to be questioned. i really hope he is healing right now too. i feel like the more i heal myself i transfer that to him so he can do his deep healing. he has to do more of it right now so this might be my way of helping him, to just work on myself and send that healing to him through our connection. i thought maybe i was meant to help him in a more mental way but that's not it, i think i was making it worse. this is the way it happens no doubt.

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    3. and some more evidence of us thinking and feeling the same things (there's a lot, in fact there is something really crazy that we both went through 2 weeks ago, i found out 2 days after it happened - we were feeling each other's emotional pain or i was feeling his). he had his 1 year of recovery celebration saturday night (i just had my 2, our recovery dates are 2 weeks apart mine coming first as well as our bdays 2 weeks apart mine coming first in the same month). so he told me earlier it was nice to have me there for his celebration when he first contacted me again today. as it worked out, i was the one to hand him his 1 year keytag and give him his hug. i didn't even think about it and didn't realize i would be doing it until it actually happened. i was asked to do that position for the month and never once thought about how it was his celebration month so it took me by surprise when it happened and i usually think about this stuff. not sure how this one got away from me. it was a little gift of synchronicity from the universe and a reminder of what is to be. so i sent him a message tonight to let him know how doing that saturday meant a lot to me, to be able to give him his keytag and his hug on his celebration night and that i think of him often. he said right back at you and it meant a lot to him too. <3 <3 <3 i'm really really learning to appreciate what little contact we are having. it might not be a lot, but it is meaningful and quality. it feels a little more intimate than contacting each other all day and stressing when we go an hour in silence lol (that's how it was getting). when we first started talking we had text messages and multiple emails going back and forth constantly because we were learning about each other (and the fact we have EVERYTHING in common so lots to talk about). so i guess there was almost an expectation to keep that up and if not things weren't ok. this is so good, it is so good for the both of us. i'm really starting to see the positives of the separation and why it must happen after the initial burst of intensity from the union. i feel like after i do all of my deep spiritual/healing work for 8 days starting friday, things will take a turn towards the reunion. he will be working on himself and doing his 4th step work during that time and could feasibly finish it by the time i am back, or at least be close to done. we will both be doing deep personal work during this time, not coincidentally. it was meant for me to be there during this time, another crazy synchronicity since this was planned before anything really happened with us. i think that will be when i fully heal, i am well on my way there. i am so open right now and have surrendered (that was a few days ago and it was rocky at first until yesterday when i was starting to truly feel happy again). the stuff i will be doing specifically targets deep healing. i feel like it is going to be the most amazing experience of my life and will even have the power to heal us both.

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    1. Oh that is a challenging situation. I wish you the best. Any obstacle can be overcome. Even if the baby is his you two could still be together.

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  34. After I re read your article several times. I now understand what you mean. It finally dawned on me that I had to let go of whatever feelings and insecurities I have left about myself and release it to the universe. When I did that. Positive things began to happen. I received a refund cheque unexpectedly and I'm in credit for a gas bill that I am paying regularly and it never happens to me. I was meditating and just sent all the love to him before hand and right after I finished he decided to contact me. He still has a lot of healing to be done but I did not question him or force him to open up with the issues that he needs to deal with. All I did was give him my unconditional love and support. I am now confident that our union will happen in the near future very soon. He knows that I love him and that I will be here waiting when he is ready to return to me. I am in a happier place now until then I will just continue with my journey to raise myself into an even higher vibration.

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  35. Have to start off by saying Rose,,,i love your writing, straight forward blunt, talking like a human, not some over educated machine! My Twin been on the run for 17 months now, ,,and zero contact, ,,,intially, we had sporatic contact, ,,now, in last 6 months, ,,zero,,,,she didn't say happy bday, ,, didnt say thanks, when I said happy bday, ,,,and ignored a recent txt, where I just said "hi",,,quick insight, ,,i was dating someone when she met my ex, ,,,6 months later we met, ,,convo,,,,it was magnetic, ,we were drawn to each other, ,,,now,,,i feel for this girl hard and fast like I never experienced in my life, ,,,told her felt like I was on cloud 9, heaven on earth, if this is true love, ,,i like it, ,,,i work out of town a lot, but we continued, ,,,talk of marriage, kids, everything, ,,i couldn't get enough of her, she always said the right thing, ,,,when I got back I left the ex, ,,,then I got, ,,,,i want this to work, , im not gonna bail,,,but 2 days later, ,i got we need to cool it, ,,,i feel like a horrible person, ,,she went from being the most loving person, ,,to the coldest, ,,zero contact, ,,,i seen her a few times in the next few months, but I can see the love in her eyes but she ignores me, ,,,i have said things like I still want to put a ring on that finger, I want what we talked about etc, ,,,she said I made her feel loved wanted and special, ,,enjoyed every second immensely, ,,but ran, ,,,she never once said, I don't love you, this was a mistake etc, ,,so any anyways I had a huge spiritual awakening, ,,,angels, god,,,twin flames, ,,i read about 2 hours a day, ,,seen phychic, tarot readers,,all say she is twin, and will return, im being tested spiritually etc, ,,,i love this girl unconditionally with all my heart, take solace that I will spend eternity with her soul,,,but still miss her in 3d,,,just wish I could talk to her,,,,somr days I think I'm crazy, ,,,think of her all day,,,sone days it's like I can feel her, ,,,i faced a lot of fears and demons in my awakening, I dont know what's left, ,,ive surrendered to god, ,,,i just can't believe I thought this was a good idea before I came to earth, yea,, meet the girl of my dreams who I love more then words can describe, and have her run away, ,,,rip out my heart, river dance on it, then kick a field goal with it! Ya,,,good plan, ,,sign me up for that pain! ,,,anyways, ,,i have gone through a coal mine of hurt, ,,,like a 5 mile deep coal mine, ,,,and now I see a glimmer of light ( hope it's not a train), ,,u have to appreciate the darkness before you can appreciate the light, ,,well I do, ,,never once was I angry at my twin or God, ,,nothing but love, , I didn't know you could live someone so much, ,,but this all started when I asked God for the feeling of love, ,,and bang, ,cupids dart hit my twin, ,,and it's still there, but just being ignored right now, ,,ah one day,,,,enjoy your journey my twin, ,,love you with all my heart, unconditionally till my last breathe, whether we see each other again or not, ,,love you,,,and thanks Rose for your writing

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    1. Oh I can feel how much you love her in your words. She does sound like a twin soul, especially how she has never told you she does not love you or how this is a mistake. It is not a mistake and she DOES love you very very much. But she is reflecting something inside of you that you have to see and change about your thinking. I don't mean change your life or your habits or "better" yourself- I mean literally you must change your thinking, your beliefs, eradicate your doubts, etc. First thing is STOP calling her a RUNNER. With every word you say and write you are actually "making" her behave a certain way towards you. Stop thinking she is ignoring you {oh GOD please quit doing that!!!} She is not ignoring you at all, and I know that is a hard truth to accept but accept it. She does this because she has to, she is acting out the script you are writing. Just here in what you wrote to me you called her a runner, and you said she ignores you. In essence what you are doing is telling the universe you want her to behave like a runner, and you want her to show you that she is ignoring you. You need to change your story!!! Do me a favor and PLEASE check out Cassady Cayne and her teachings about twin souls. She is the ONLY twin soul guide I believe in at all. You, my friend, do have a lot of control over this but not in the way you have thought of having control in the past.

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    2. As you read through my blog you will see many places where I've felt the same as you. And yes I've said happy birthday to him and not received a response, not received a happy birthday on my own birthday- and at first it hurt. Now I realize that if I am thinking the wrong things about him then I won't ever hear from him. This ALL has to do with your thoughts, energy, beliefs- because you are manifesting this. Often it is the woman who is on the receiving end of the "quiet" but I am seeing now more men are playing that role. You must be one of them. But you are not a chaser and she is not a runner. YOU are just the one being forced to "write the right story" and create the story you want with her. I can give you a few tips if you'd like to write to me roseawen1973@gmail.com. I am NO PRO at all. Man, been fumbling around in this for a while but what I've learned through... my stumbles might help you. And I'd like to help you if you are willing. If you don't listen to what I am sharing with you, and if you insist on thinking she is scared and running and ignoring you then I cannot help you at all. You have to be willing to shift your mindset out of 3D in order to get through this. Email if you'd like. Best wishes!

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  36. Thanks Rose!!! Yes, I will email you, ,,,and I see your point about about runner,ignoring ,,,,and I receive Cassidy blogs twice a week, ,,,thanks for your insight and help, ,,,i know she has her own journey, ,the best gift I received from God, was the gift of love, when you can love someone so much, even when they are not part of your 3D world, I love her just as much after 17 months apart as I did when I was with her, ,,nobody understands that,,,think I'm nuts,,lol,,,but after all this time apart, there feels like a hole in my heart, ,,everyday is an eternity, ,,,thanks

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  37. Thank you so much for this post. My twin went silent on me last weekend and honestly around that time I was stressed, dealing with a lot and feeling fearful. I never told him what was going on and when he did message me he seemed completely disconnected. He told me he had to focus on his situation and told me to continue to improve. Then he told me to take care of myself. We have never argued and have always been in tune with eachother. So, of course this was shocking to me even though right before the silence I felt sudden fear and worry for him. Your post had definitely helped me to realize I need to focus on my issues like he is doing for himself.

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  38. Wow... This helped me realize a lot of things. I thought he was ignoring me for almost 3 years now. I thought he just didn't realize the connection. Turns out I think he is more awake than I am! The mirroring is so important to figure out. Funny thing is I hear the song mirrors play on the radio when I'm "running" he comes to me a lot more and I feel his love. I dream about him almost every night now.:)

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    1. I am glad you can see the reality of the connection. I am not going to be a hypocrite- even now sometimes this connection causes me some hurt and I have to work through it to know TRUTH. It is so important to know the truth about how the reflection works. We are not being ignored. I believe our twins would actually like to be in contact with us, and we need to hold on to that truth. It is nice that you dream of him. And yes, the mirroring is really important to understand. I am glad you are feeling better now :) Best wishes, and thank you- I needed this reminder of my own guidance :)

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  39. Thank you Rose, you are a guide to help others struggling to understand the impossible. I too have struggled and had no idea about the realness of a twin flame relationship, and out of the darkest and deepest moment of my life did I turn to find answers to why I couldn't disconnect from my beloved twin. I'm a mature guy, was married for 18 years, had numerous relationships after that and had no problems moving on after a short while. But this is something extraordinary and not matter how many times you and all your friends and family tell you to move on, you simply cannot, it is spiritually impossible. All the blogs and youtube video help ease the pain because now it has an explanation, but nothing outside us can fix, repair or heal us. Only we have that ability and I have found that working on my enlightenment has healed me and I feel my twins healing too.

    I had a bit of a relapse this morning, but coming to pages like yours keeps me focused on the real journey and gives me the strength to believe in the process of the higher self and the spiritual journey we chose from the outset.

    My twin has completely blocked me from all communication, bar one, telepathy . What we both feel and sense of each other on the higher vibration. I feel her anguish, her tears, her fears, but I just keep sending my love and light to her. We communicate sometimes in our dreams. I sadly saw her sitting with a box of anti depressants in front of her and my heart wept as we had worked to get her off those and she found a happier world since.

    I know now she ran because I was projecting MY fears onto her, my fear of rejection, because I'm 14 years older and she's a very attractive 36 and I kept on thinking this is too good to be true, and the inner voice kept saying "this won't last". In the end a small difference of opinions (more me protecting her from those who enjoy manipulating and using her) saw her pack up and leave. Total shock not just for me, but everyone who knew us. "The perfect couple" everyone said. Now the pain of the reality of separation. It just sucks. Yet I ask that inner voice, who has always been right from day one, why I can't move on and it tells me now, "not done yet". OH for Gods sake, AHHH!!! Ha ha, have to laugh about it sometimes.

    You're right, look deep within, find yourself, raise yourself, destroy the ego, heal old wounds and find the inner peace of presence. I highly recommend Eckhart Tolle and his road to inner peace. Plenty on youtube.

    Thanks again Rose. You have helped make a difference.

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    1. Thank you. I understand. Believe me. Still I have a hard time with the silence. I don't think I will ever totally be able to accept it. I realize that it is something "not of this world" and I try to deal with it but I miss talking with my love. I seek inner peace but the ache I feel in missing him kinda messes with my peace. I am glad my experiences have helped soothe you. Take care and best wishes. I hope you are reconnected with her soon.

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    2. This might ease your mind. These two are living proof that twins do unite. It's your will that makes it so.

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  40. Thanks Rose. I know that feeling all too well. If there's one thing I can offer you, surrender. Surrender to what is. Accept it, don't deny it, observe the thought or feeling, know why its there then put it aside and keep going. Trust in the process, I know I'll be reunited with my twin. Where when how doesn't matter. I have had to recognize my flaws, my fears and anxieties and have found a thread from my past in it all. I've cleared that energy and keep clearly it if it pops up. I honestly believe when we clear our stuff out we reach the right vibration to enable our twin to release their fears of us reflected in themselves. I believe we project our fears onto them which is why they run. I know I've had a long fear of rejection, and when I began trying to point out certain issues with my twin, she had a fear of being rejected and so ran. I find writing affirmations help. Write the scenario of your union with your twin, believe it to be true and wait to receive. Light and love to you.

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  41. Im going through the same thing,Im being ignored and blocked from social media. We went from being inseparable to no communication at all. I went from being devastated and broken, to hatred, to feeling like my twin is dead to me because it's easier to deal with than accepting the fact that my twin has said and done a lot of things to purposely hurt me. At this point, don't think I even want to reunite. I know that I am not handling this situation correctly, but all I want is for it to be over... I hope and pray that everyone on this thread does eventually find happiness, but as for me. Im over it...

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    1. HI. I understand. I am sorry you are hurting. I can't really guide you more than what I have shared on this blog. If he is your "mirror" then he will continue to show you everything you are feeling about him. So it works like this, when you say, "He is just ignoring me, blocking me out and he's being mean" then he actually has to do that even more. So if somewhere when you were inseparable you had any doubts inside of you or any fears then your twin could go quiet. It is what they do as a mirror. If he truly is your twin soul or even a strong soul mate then he could be mirroring you. What you are experiencing is part of what most twin souls do experience, if that offers you any solace. Only thing I can tell you if you want to know more about the mirroring is to read my blog and see if 1) you can believe it and accept it and 2) if you can change how you feel inside. Best of luck to you.

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  42. Hello Rose! I hope you are doing well. I didn't know about Twin Flames until recently. Many things now make lots of sense. In my case, I strongly believe my Twin Flame is my best friend since college. We are from different parts of the world, different culture, religions, languages. But at the same time we are very alike. We did many things together; and we enjoyed each others' company very much. After our graduation, we end out working in extremes parts of the country, fast pace work environments; but we always tried to stay in touch. Once I got married and had children, she began communicated less and less, working more and more. At the point, she signed-up to go work abroad to a country in a war conflict. I was terrified and worried for her wellbeing. She would write saying, "I wished you were here sister, I miss you so much. I wished you were here sister with me..." Once I expressed how worry I was for her, she began communicating even less and less... Years had passed, now I became a widow, my husband died. My friend didn't know about my husband passing. One day, she called me, she was worry about me, saying she had a weird feeling about me... Yes, it was about my husband dying... After my husband's death, we met for the first time over a decade. That meeting was weird. We didn't know how to behave. We didn't want to let go, but we had to separate. In another occasion I asked her, why the lack of communication, why you had been ignoring me for such a long time? She replied, "...because I knew, you were happily married, and you were forming a wonderful family and I am very proud of you my sister, you are a wonderful person..." After that reunion, she kept texting and calling once in a while. Then, she called and said she wanted to live a simple life and wanted to come and help me with my children. Honestly, I was in shock about it, I never expected it. But, once I showed interest on her coming back to my life as a friend, now she is communicating very little. She says, she has a lot of work to do, work related traveling to do, healing to do after the work she did in the war zone country..., working, busy always working, busy. So, this takes me out of base always all the time... On the other hand, one of her parents has a terminal disease. My friend says she's not doing well about it, I can completely understand. My friend has never being mean nor rude to me; she's always very respectful and loving. The few times we talk I can feel so much love from her side and the same when she writes to me, very short message, sometimes just three words and many emoticons, emojis. It seems every time I want to make a move, she re-appears, even if I don't tell her. It's like she already knows about me and my life, like she knows what I am thinking; and we don't have friends nor family in common, so I don't know how she knows... I don't think she knows about Twin Flames... My questions to you: Should I tell her about Twin Flames, is it wise to let her know??? I thank you Rose. Enjoy and have a great day! Sincerely, LCB-Stromberg.

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    1. Hello to you! Yours is an interesting situation and I am not sure what to say exactly BUT one thing is I don't know if you really need to tell her about twin flames? I don't think it makes a difference. Why do you want to tell her? Are you seeking confirmation from her, or affirmation from her? I have a question- does your friend's quiet or not always responding ever make you feel like she does not care about you? I can't quite grasp why this is happening to you. Maybe she went quiet when she was in the war zone because she did not want you to worry about her? I am not sure why when you show interest or concern she goes quiet, unless she is your mirror some how. I know you think she is a good kind person, and she is kind to you. But what do you think of her feelings towards you? I am trying to figure out if there is anything inside of you that worries this friend does not value you, and if somehow she is showing this to you so you can release it. I don't think right now you need to tell her about twin flames unless your heart is really guiding you to do so. You could- bottom line is it won't matter if it is not meant to matter.

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  43. Thank you Rose for your quick response, I greatly appreciate it!
    Rose something unknown and unexpected happened about 2 1/2 hours after I wrote to you. My friend called me; she is moving back to the West Coast next week. She's selling her house, and told me she wants to buy real estate close to me, so she can help me with my family, since my husband died. She's leaving everything she worked hard behind... I'm surprised; we hardly communicated over the years... To answer your first question Rose, yes I was looking for confirmation from her; but given what happened, I won't say anything. And, to answer your second question; yes, it made me feel sad her lack of communication and being too quiet; it felt she didn't care about our friendship anymore. Rose, I don't know what else to think...? I'm truly in shock. I pray to God everything goes well for her. What do you think about it Rose? Thank you very much Rose and have a wonderful day! Sincerely, LCB-Stromberg.

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    1. I think it is because you were thinking of her. Just make sure you think very positive about the situation. Be thankful that she is coming. Believe it, know she wants to be your friend and help you. It's all about believing in goodness, her caring for you, her wanting to be your friend. Just know she does care, and I wish you the best!

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  44. Yes, I will do as you advised. Thank you Rose, I'm grateful. Best wishes and blessings to you too.

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  45. You are giving me such a great understanding of the silence . I love your posts

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  46. Hi Rose, the first sorry for my english, I'm from Spain. After several time to found information about the flames, souls...I discovered your text translated to spanish and decide to visit blog...it's incredibke because I'm in a dificult situation now because my twin flame is sleeping (I don't know if it's a correct way to explain), I'm sure than he is my twin flame but in thus moment I don't know if the his feelings are the sane or not because the communication between he and me is very digicult and in ocassions he stopped the comunication, not block but spend 3 or 4 weeks without any word, the last tine that I see my twin flame was 5th of december but 3 months ago that not see (since 13th of september). During these periods when I don't know nothing about he I think that it's not my twin flame and I'm crazy but this behavior from he is since April of 2016 and at the end he to communicated with me and after start again the distance. He say me on June that he not want a relationship but he find me every time when pass a time without a contact...we attract us like magnets!
    The problem is that when I have a contact the days after I need a lot if time to recover the emotional stability because I need to be with him, it is as if I was missing the air. I tried during those periods without seeing forget him, but it's impossible! I remenber the feelings that I feel when I'm with him...is a diferent feeling that there had never felt, I had a partner 4 years ago during 14 years! I hope that at the end he weak up and understand all this and not needs to spend more time without me, because I think t'has he knows that exist and special feeling between me and he, but he not understand this feeling.

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    1. Hello! Yes that sounds like a twin soul, doesn't it! I don't think he is sleeping or unawake. He mirrors you. If you have any doubts or fears he will show them to you as if they are real. Just try working on knowing he loves you and wants to talk to you. I'll bet he does really want to talk to you. The quiet is not their wish, what I mean is I do not think they want to be quiet. Know he does love you and wants to be with you. And yes I understand being drawn to him and unable to let go. Believe me I do. I love this man just the same as when I met him so I know what you mean! Remind yourself that he does not want to be without you. Tell yourself good things about him and that will help shift the energy between you. Best wishes!

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  47. Thanks a lot for your words and your support in this process, it's dificult to find people that understand this situation. Thanks!!!!

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  48. Hi, Rose. I Googled 'Twin Souls up at 3am' and Spirit guided me here. Great article!

    I have found my twin soul and the craziest thing is that, even though I felt like I was the more developed twin, I was wrong. He is! We've known each other for 37 years: together in preschool (he was my bf!), then 7th grade, then again 4 years ago (I ran), and now since last summer. We live in different countries, but remain in contact. Oddly, the 2 times I have been home to visit, for weeks at a time, we go through separation and come together for a few hours right before my departure. Then spend the time in full bliss and wishing we would have more time together. It has been a very frustrating journey, but love continues to join us, even in separation. He knows and believes I am his TS, and now -with his life becoming so stressed- he's running. I went through a really difficult time with this about 2 weeks ago, but decided to release my pain and know this separation was not about me not being loved, but about my growth and fears, and that helped me deal with the pain of silence. Honestly, I had an evening -alone, while away on business- that was very, very dark, but somehow I managed to let go of the pain and place it in the hands of the Divine. I woke up renewed and happy, with a fresh new outlook on our relationship.

    Now, here's where our journey takes a twist... he has been diagnosed with cancer. Of course, I am beside myself with fear and hate that he goes MIA for days at a time as he deals with the pain of possibly losing this battle. He tells me: "If I go MIA remember it's not about you, it's never about you, I just need time on my own to deal with stuff" (amazing when a TS understands this!). I turned my suffering to love and have become closer to him than ever, but I cannot get over the fear of losing him. Additionally, I now feel his pain in the flesh. I have no idea why I am up at 3:39am, feeling anxious and nervous, with him on my mind the whole time. No clue until, as I write this, I get a message from him that he's going into emergency surgery - NOW! I am so scared! I'm staying strong for him, but inside I am a complete mess. How do I deal with the possible loss of a TS? We've had conversations about this and I've (selfishly) asked him not to leave me behind. He says if God wants to take him, he's ready and that hits me like a ton of bricks. What do I do? Oddly, I don't fear the running or even the separation, but knowing he might not be here this time next year is tearing me up inside. How do we go on when the TS leaves? Is this a normal happening for TS?

    Thank you for your time and insight!
    Sha

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  49. My twin - despite being the one who introduced ME to the concept, has now declared we're not twins at all, but dosnt deny the connection. However she now believes the connection is soley the product of manipulation by 'dark entities". That last communique, was after 6 months of NC, after she refused to leave her BF. In those six months of hell, Ive worked through so much, thrown myself at every pain with total compassion for us both and my experiences have been mind blowing. So her declaration has truly shocked me. The feel I felt in her message and empathically was intense. Somehow, shes reverted to utter denial and Ive realised I cant do a thing about it. I dont doubt my experiences at all. But now, if thats all thats going to happen between us,Im focusing purely on my life. Not going to pretend I am not deeply hurt by all this. But, except for a few days since - the connection has gone from all day every day to utter silence (Im referring to energy here). Its confusing.

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    1. I'm sorry you are going through a rough time. Is there a possibility you are being tested hard to see how you will react? Feel free to contact me at roseawen1973@gmail.com. I have a thought but I'd rather it remain personal. I wish you the best.

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  50. Thank you so much for your article. I am currently being ignored. Actually he told me he has met someone else and that he hopes I can accept. I naturally freaked out and drank as much beer as I possibly can and messaged him like crazy. He said he doesn't want to block me because I mean too much to him. I kept on messaging him crying and feeling terrible. And I told him to block me. So he did :( I feel devastated. The past two months I have been drinking every weekend and I was so obsessed with him and I kept on trying to push him away cause he was hurting me even though he didn't mean too. He was in another relationship when we reconnected a year and a half ago and my guides told me to be patient. They broke up in July so naturally I thought we might finally be able to be together. But he suddenly got really distant and I couldn't understand why. He communicates with me through music so he would send me these soul wrenching songs. Songs that would say I am the silent melody in his atmosphere, that he hopes if the silence takes me that it will take him too. But he would be totally cold towards me with his actual words. He's blocked me before and have come back around, but this time I feel like it might be the end. My guides are telling me that it is not. He just doesn't want to hurt me anymore, and he thinks this is the only way to do it. I feel broken. It was my biggest fear that he would meet someone new and now he did. I really don't know what to do anymore. Half of the time I think I am a total nutcase. Your article helped me to put things a bit in perspective, but I still don't understand how he could do this to me.

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  51. Hi Rose!
    I’m currently in separation with my twin. It’s been just over six months and I’m just turning a corner where I feel able to prioritize my own happiness and love myself (by not drinking, or turning to vices).

    My question is, Is it ok to keep a photo of my twin and I up in my bedroom or is that unhealthy behavior? I want to make sure I’m really doing this self work for me and not feel like it’s an obsessive desire to cope with abandonment. But st the same time, I want to continue to cherish him, what we had, and remember that I really need to stay focused on this inner path right now, his photo might help remind me of the faith in twin flames so I don’t sink back into the lifestyle I had before I met him (monotony, work, drink, and get sucked back into the New York lifestyle that my twin and I were supposed to escape together).

    He left me, his job and nyc over the course of a week, after being together for 2.5 years. He’s figuring out who he is right now, and we’re not in contact.

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    1. Absolutely it is okay for you to keep a photo of your twin and cherish him!!! That is WONDERFUL. Love is always good, always. If you love him and cherish him then that is perfectly fine. Hold him gently in your heart and memory. There is nothing wrong with that at all. We are meant to love our twins unconditionally; love is perfect.

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